Who knows. And now that Miss Princess is all upset, the LAST thing BM will do is rat her out if she does, because BM sees me as a total b***h, that, and if it is proven that SheSloth stole it, I may DEMAND the girl leave my house, and she can't have that because her husband doesn't want SheSloth, either. Makes one wonder...neither step wants this kid around? Might it possibly be the kid and the lack of parenting? No...I'm sure it is my fault shared with BM's husband!

I did say I was being conservative! }:)

Well, he still believes the lie was to cover that she lost the book, which he is trying to say she really feels bad about. He refuses to believe she did anything malicious. She knows how to lay it on with DH! I'm certain she still has it somewhere, and only told DH she looked for it and couldn't find it.

I can't believe he said what he did, either....about the parenting part. I can believe the hot chocolate. The day SheSloth got in trouble for having alcohol at school, he took her for ice cream to sit and talk about it!

BM has a way of getting her way...where do you think SheSloth learned manipulation? From the sound of it, BM tried to change SF's mind, but this time, he is standing his ground. Guess he found where BM hid his balls and took them back. Wish DH would realize where SheSloth is keeping his! SF holds all the cards in that house as BM doesn't work, and depends on him for everything!

And SheSloth does hate SF. She has said she wishes BM would just divorce him. She has probably said the same with regards to me, too!

Oh...I do my best to not even be around her! Yes, when I see her I want to smack her!

Oh, I'm thinking email all her teachers. Think I've figured out how and not be in trouble. If it gets to DH that I did it, I'll just say, "Well, you know how she looks for things! Even at home, she stands in the middle of the room going in circles saying she can't find it! I though maybe, one of the teachers found a yearbook in their class that no one claimed. Doesn't hurt to give it one more go...I paid for the book, so it could be a nice keepsake if it's found." That way, I don't make it sound like I believe she stole it, and I could get some good intel if one of the teachers saw her getting her friends to write in it..."Oh, yeah...she had one in my class getting signatures...."

I doubt the SF would help me for be it. In 14 years (as he is the guy BM cheated on DH with), it don't think the two of us have said more the three words to each other.

BM and DH have always tried to treat SheSloth as an equal, and that is part of the problem! BM has ALWAYS had a bad habit of involving SheSloth in adult issues she had no business being involved in. DH would always say BM was wrong for that, but then do the same thing! I mean, I can't remember how many times the girl was involved in conversations regarding custody terms and child support terms that she had no business knowing anything about...it was something that should have been kept between the adults! When SheSloth's aunt was dying of cancer...instead of the child-like "she is just really sick" talk that most of us would have had with our kids, BM involved SheSloth in EVERYTHING! When BM's parents broke up? Yup, SheSloth knew that it was because grandpa cheated on grandma with some girl he went to high school with! SheSloth was only 7 at the time!!! She should have not been privy to any of that!

So, yeah...DH's way of handling things with SheSloth is to sit down with her over coffee/cocoa/ice cream and "talk" about it! Even when SheSloth lived at BM's, and BM would call DH because of something SheSloth did...instead of going over there and presenting a united front with BM that whatever was unacceptable, and that SheSloth would have to be punished for it, DH would take her to Starbucks or Dairy Queen...just the two of them...for a "talk". These talks usually resulted in SheSloth saying that BM and SF was blowing things out of proportion, and DH kindly telling her that she just needed to try to get along with them...rather than telling her, "Look...stop acting like you are a spoiled brat. When they tell you something...it is yes ma'am, yes sir...you do it!" Okay...maybe not that blunt...or maybe that blunt...but the general message of you respect your elders, you are not grown, you do not run the house!

I think society today is screwed up by these stupid books by the so-called experts! "You have to talk to them...you have to make them take a time out." HA! Look where that is getting folks...with bratty kids! I spanked. I demanded respect. I used the word "no" quite often. And look what I got...two kids with whom I'm great friends with now that they are adults...kids who are respectful, tender hearted, and hard working! Kids who look at their younger sister and say, "What the hell? Oh no she didn't just talk to our mom that way!"

These Disney dads don't get that this is a life lesson! He doesn't believe she "lost" the yearbook on purpose...that it was an innocent accident, and I should give her a break on that part...she is already being punished for the lying. Newsflash...that's not the way it works in the real world!!! Say SheSloth borrowed a roommate's necklace and lost it. Even if it was an innocent accident, that roommate will still expect some sort of repayment for the lost property! If SheSloth is driving, and bumps into another car...that person is going to expect payment for the damage. That may mean you end up giving up some things to pay them back if you don't have the money in hand! May have to cancel plans to go to the movies that weekend, or take some purchases back to the store and return them to get back the money to pay the other person. Life lesson! You can't just say sorry and not compensate the person for loss or damage to their property!

But, as we see every day, these parents aren't preparing their kids! Like when I expressed concern about SheSloth launching..."she doesn't feel she needs to take care of herself right now." At 15, girl should be getting herself out of bed! She shouldn't be told to pick up after herself. She shouldn't be told to do laundry!

I personally don't think those leggings are going to hold up much longer...lol...wearing really thin! Last thing I need is DH begging me to run something to the school for her to wear because they finally gave out, or her staying home because she is sick or has no pants! It was funny, however. We get to the mall, and she thought it was shopping time! She starts trying to go into other stores to look at jeans...like HotTopic and PacSun. Um...no! I say we are going straight to the ONLY store she is getting jeans in! We are not looking around...going straight to jeans, make the purchase, and leave the mall! This put her in a foul mood! I already knew exactly what she was getting. I would have gone yesterday while we were out, but DH insisted she had to try them on! I've gotten pretty good at judging her size by looking at her, but oh well. I didn't want to get them with her, because I KNEW she was suddenly going to "need" other stuff (and she did) and didn't want to even hear her ask!

I'm already almost ready to bet money that she tries to stay home tomorrow! Already claiming she doesn't feel well...laying on the couch in the TV room because it's too boring in her room without her privs.

Yup...you hit the nail right on the head!

Just like the guard drama...he STILL hasn't called the guard coach or the band director to find out what really went on. Just taking SheSloth's word all the way. Only reason she even told him about it? Because she was in danger of being kicked off of guard, but then the captain made a mistake and send SheSloth a text out of anger. That text made the issue a wash. SheSloth was banking on DH NEVER calling the guard coach or band director, because he always says he will, and never does. So, gotta tell him enough so that he isn't shocked if SheSloth does get kicked from guard, but only what makes her look like a total victim in the matter!

My mom used to tell me, "I do love you! I just don't like who you are!" Yeah, that got my attention, too!