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Submitted by 12yrstepmonster on Sun, 10/14/2012 - 10:15am

So I decided after 3 years of trying to get family pictures with skids as well. I did the inconceivable and had dh, DD19 and dd12 and myself in the first ever family pictures without skids.

Sd is 21 and lives out of state. She was mad that we didn't invite her. Of course Ss called her when we sent him an invite

Ss15 (stb 16) said he didn't think he'd make it.

I am tired of feeling guilty for wanting things, and of feeling that if you don't want me in your family. Take nothing from me.

The photo shoot was fun because they weren't there. There is a lot of tension when they are present.

Dh told sd that he was tired of having two families. She said she has felt the same way....created over time. Let's see you tel me our opinions don't matter because you only have to be with us 4 days a month...
When you go off to college you say it doesn't matter your dad couldn't afford to pay 7k a year to send you. You were owed it.

Why do I feel guilty that we had a fun photo shoot, and had family pics with the family that want to be in our lives

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Submitted by bi on Sun, 10/14/2012 - 10:45am

don't feel guilty, i sure won't next year when we get pictures done again. sd is 20, lives on her own and is having a baby soon. she is an adult with her own life now. when you reach adulthood and have your own life, you are no longer included in the daily activities of the parents home. i'm sure sd will bitch and whine and say that she and her bf and kid should have been included in our pictures, and i don't give a shit. if she wants family pictures, she can get her own. her bitchy face was in the first set we had done 4 years ago, when she was a minor. if she does pitch a fit, i will ask her if she thinks her grandparents should ask fdh and his sb and ss to be in their pictures too, even though fdh and his stepsibs all have families of their own. that doens't mean i think a skid needs to have a kid of their own to not be included, either. it just means that when you do have kids of your own, it's even more ridiculous to expect to be in your parents pictures with the minor children.