So yesterday was our anniversary we took bd bs out to trick or treat. I thought things went well didn't expect much. Got home got the kids ready for bed, as it is a school nite, and laid down myself. Later h comes in and says he feels as though he was distant all night. Well, we had been fighting over him wanting me to invite his family, who hates me and talks constant crap about me, to thanksgiving dinner. His daughter, my skid, starves for attention and before I started seeing her dad she was the center of it. Of course once he started seeing me skid had to learn to share her dad and this did not go over well, at the time she was 7/8. Over the years she has come to visit maybe a handful of times usually for her bday which is also xmas. I am serious when I say every time I talk to skid she cries wolf and the minute she gets to bms its like she has nothing but lies to tell and says that i yell at her when half the time i don't even speak to her! I hide in my room just so i don't have to be around her. i truly hate her for all the lies she tells just to get attention. The only time I slightly raised my voice at her was when my h had me make her breakfast b4 i went to work. she wouldn't even speak to me. so i asked her what her responsibilities at home was; did she make her own breakfast? skid was probably 10 at the time and I remember at that age i was expected to get my own cereal. anyways she told her dad that i yelled at her which i didn't i just asked her why she expects to be waited on at our house and takes care of herself at her bms. Well when i got home from working 9 hours my h starts a fight with me in front of her to prove himself idk. so i go in and tell her very calmly to call her mom and have her come get her. she goes outside and tells her mom and dad that i, you guessed it, yelled at her. Now that is her catch phrase. I am always mean to her and yell at her every chance i get. Its bs and she just wants the attention. To make matters worse his family holds that incident against me and says that I'm crazy for asking her those questions or telling her to call her mom idk. I do know that everyone has a breaking point and i was far from mine when those events occurred. not to mention that this happened almost 6 years ago and its still thrown in my face every chance they get. Just recently my h was contacted by another skid that wanted to get to know him, long story short her bm had her and had a dad figure for the girl who wanted to adopt and my h was ok since he didn't find out about her until she was 5. Anyhoo she is now 14 and has been visiting more but also expecting compensation ($). she went on fb saying that she had given him a chance and it wasn't all that and neither was she when she had only visited a handful of times over the summer and asked us to buy her some shoes. his other daughter the first one i was talking about when on fb and said that her dad ruined her life when she hasn't wanted anything to do with him for the last idk 5 years. all because the second skid showed up wanted a relationship the 1st skid was jealous and went on fb to throw a tantrum and guess who took the brunt? me i was the one to blame yet again! it was a full out bash me on fb! I was pissed to say the least, especially since i have not talked to her in quite some time. Idk what to do it seems like all we do is fight about his 1st selfish brat of a child. i really can't stand it when ppl say you knew he had a daughter when you started dating. well yes i did, did i know the bs that she was going to cause all because she wants him to herself, no. I mean is it weird, because it is to me, that he was still sleeping with her at the age of 8 let alone 13 she was still trying to sleep with him. I think when i was not around he would still sleep with her at that age too. I think it is weird. I guess i forgot to mention that we also have two of our own together that no one considers on his side. the determination of whether we should be together fully rests on what the 1st skid wants. to me its bs, we have kids together too its not just about one skid. i guess she was raised as the only child and has always had the full attention on her. not to mention the bm is impossible to deal with. I have told her multiple times, as my h has too, that there is no need for contact ever! its never positive, always negative to not contact us at all. it goes in one ear and out the other. I mean also, shouldn't our house be our rules not the bms? BM is so controlling that she calls constantly the whole night she is here. and gets upset name calling and crap when i told her daughter to not talk to my kids that way because her kid yelled at my infant for crying! its a total !@#$% mess and I'm just rambling on now but i don't even care. this is probably YEARS of made up venting. I am angry at this point that no one else takes responsibility and solely blames me just because I'm with him.