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2timemom's picture

My SS and SD are leaving for the weekend to go and see there BM,I should be happy and relaxed,but Im not Im stressing out for when they are coming back I know there is going to be drama,I am so sick of it.
Its my SS that is causing all the stress and crap in my house,I was talking with him this morning,not a word from him just a smugg look on his face,I hate the fact that he thinks it is funny,yet we all suffer because of him,my DH,thinks Im too hard on him,I want to scream so loud,that I make the house move,I get more respect from my dog,than I do my SS.
I have taken a step back,at my DH request,and now,that is not right either,I want to pack my stuff and take my dog,and never look back,no win situation.
Coming to this website is like having therapy,and Im glad Im not alone.

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sabrienat's picture

I have felt that way a million times over... I have learned to accept the things I can not change about it. I enjoy the quite. When the kids come back I usually try to be in my room with the door closed and in most cases that helps. They are extra drama and mean when they return. I have realized that if I dont give them any reaction they uaually stop. If they are being rude I walk away. I guess they can be rude to themselvs.... Try it. At the end of the day Im sure your DH just feels trapped in the middle of his child and his wife and doesnt know what to do. My DH is the same way...

2timemom's picture

restored Balance..
Well sunday night was very much a wake up call for my stepkid's,they had told there BM and there stepdad so many lies,and I was going to get to the bottom of it,enough was enough.
Monday,they came home from school,and I had asked them to join me at the table for a talk,I asked them,do you see me as a monster that does not care or feed you!!!,bearing in mind I already knew what they had told the BM and stepdad but they did not know this,the lies just continued,I sat I listen to them,and then it was my turn,well I wish I had taken pictures of there face's it was priceless to say the least,they had been busted,on a scale of 1 to 10,it was a 10,I also let them know that I had spent most of my day talking with there mom and stepdad,and we where no longer going to be played against each other.
So far so good,until next time,I have disengaged myself alittle from them,there dad now see's what little shit's he has,but at least I know I can turn to him,and also come to this website for help.
I also let them know,I have a life,if the going get's tough for you,listen to what we have to stay,dont be such a smartass,and think that you are going to get away from the crap you try to dish out,Wrong you will be ground I will take your things away from you,if it hurt you to bad,life is all about choices make sure you make the one.!!!!