My husband and I met 3 years ago. We both had worked together. I purely dispised him. He was the most arrogant oaf I've ever seen. We both were finishing our divirces. We started helping each other thru the hurt, that's where I saw why he was how he had been acting. He's the most gentle soul I'd ever seen chained down by his personal life that made him blow at everything like a volcano. We dated for a while and decided to take it to next step and I moved in with my kids. He's been wonderful. The problems we have had fought about primarily has been the welfare of his child. I've helped raise this kid since she was in diapers still. She's a very spirited child, but had shown a lot of temperament, and unusual behaviors. I contributed to the fact that I'm the new woman and she's had a hard time with the divorce of her parents. I've gone out of my way to encourage her and let her know that's it wasn't her fault. I sincerely love this kid, she is my daughter in my eyes.
Her behaviors started as aggression, retaliation, wiping feces on my walls and in my car, turned from that into her having a foul mouth and saying threatening and violent things like she was going to kill me like she is her mother and acting out the scene with my broom like its a gun. She arrives every weeken we have her without fail with nappy tangled hair , dirty clothes that are not weather appropriate dirty smelling teeth not clean. She constantly repeats the ugly things her mother tells her. Her mom started dating a guy last year and within two to three months she allowed the guy to live with her, keep our child by himself over night, she didn't report this to the court, and lied to us about him watching her. She got busted the third month because she was caught in a bar getting blitzed on her weekend an the kid wasn't with her at all. She has a habit of partying it up and constantly pawning our child with people whom we don't know and whom she refused to advise. I fear our child my get hurt and we wouldn't even know as twice the kids been in the hospital for "climbing up the slide wrong" busting thru her tongue and bruising the whole bottom portion of her face, the other for stomach virus . She never notified us until she was confronted. The child has told us this guy had beat her mom, even kicked her in the face and was screaming for our child to run while the guy and her want into their bedroom and slammed the door. They hit her with wooden spoons. She has had a problem for a year now with digging, scratching and touching her privates, I fear she may be abused in another way or her mother is just completely negligent. The most recent episode being the child had started a cold and progressed to bronchitis over a period of 5 weeks and I took her in to be seen. Bm advised she hasn't been sick at all at her house and that something is triggering it at ours. Advised us to change detergents. LOL!!!! Um dumb broad detergent has no bearing nor is applicable to bronchitis. I know as a step parent I have no legal right and my husband is afrai that if he take action the lepution will try and keep his kid from him. Please someone help m to feel that I am not the problem I am concerned for that baby, and her health and mental health. The woman makes this kid call her father and tell him she hates him doesn't want to see him. The kid is 4 . It hurt to know hat damage is being done until all of this Is taken care of. I just don't want to have her suffer, ntm this woman has made my life hell. She's harassed and stalked me, vandalized my car, so much more that literally I don't understand why she does this. What should I do? What can I do to get all of this stoppe an protect my step child?