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Step parent dont know how long I can last

Alia's picture

My partner and I been together nearly two years we already have a baby girl of our own my own child and he has a child to an previous relationship. My SS mother is a witch and always tells him font listen to your step Mum she cant tell you what to do I know she bitches about me to him. Anyway we recently got our own place and SS comes to stay with us every single weekend Friday to Sunday and I hate it when hes here. He takes over the living room o cant even relax down there and neither can my 7 month old he has the tele the hole weekend and my boyfriend knows this but doesn't nothing but laughs. I just go out and go upstairs and my bff always says why do you go out so much. But its because I dont want to be around both of them all SS is play video games and is not respectful. He is a good child but a picture has been painted of me by his jealous mother. Rhe funny thing is before I was pregnant my bf didn't insist he stay every weekend. Now we have our own child it's like hes making up for the time hes not spent with him because he feels guilty that he sees our baby every day. To which he doesnt do anything for in regard to feeding changing and spends a bit of time in the evening. When SS comes I just go upstairs eventually he annoys me and eats everything out the cupboard that 8 bought the following week. He isnt close to his sister one bit and is just interested in playing games. When SS has done things in the past and I've shouted sternly not to do this for good reason my boyfriend has screamed in front of the child dint speak to him like that and fell out with me for a day.  To top it off the SS sees us argue all the time and my boyfriend will reel off all my personal stuff in a rage with the SS listening and asking questions then if I ignore SS because he should be asking about adult stuff my bf will say why are you ignoring him font ignore my son etc. Its a nightmare. That's why I go out kn the weekend to my mums with our baby. I've started to think maybe it's best to be alone because j cant stand SS and my boyfriend changes when hes around it's weird. I cant imagine sticking around as a family like this for years to come. The only reason imwith my partner is because of our baby and ges always wanted to be a family. we have different parenting rules SS mother is struc in the week and on weekends his dad is so laid back let's him eat crap drink fizzy drinks.  I font want my daughter growing up seeing how he can do what he wants when she cant drink fizzy drinks all day. Losing the plot

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Dizzyjell's picture

With a baby who we have together and then SOs kid from another marriage who is a great stressor. SO does a 180 when she's here. He is nice and sweet when shes gone but the day she returns, he gets angry and treats me differently. I'm not allowed to say 1 thing about or to her without him flipping out and hurling insults at me. Like you, I am here because of the baby. But I do not think I can last much longer. It has only gotten worse over time and I hate living this situation. Imagining the rest of my kife like this seems awful. 

TiredfrustratedandDONE's picture

I'm with above. I'm at my wits end and we don't even live together. Is it sad that a skid can breakup a relationship:(