SD21 is, unfortunately, turning out as predicted
Well, it no fun when you end up right sometimes. SO got messages from BM. SD21 is back living with BM (was living with boyfriend). She had some sort of breakdown and they drug tested her. Found 3 prescription meds that she has no prescription for. BM is just now telling us all of this is going on. SD doesn't talk to her dad much. BM never tells SO there is problem with the kids, until its just so far gone that no one knows what to do and professional help is needed.
We saw SD recently for a family event and noticed she lost weight. Looked pale. I suspect from a surgery that she had, that she may end up addicted to pain meds. Looks like that is the case.
Now BM has the nerve to be a jerk to SO because he hasn't said much about the whole thing. I mean seriously? He's trying to grasp that his daughter is an addict and you want him to text you? Maybe tell us a train is coming BEFORE it hits? How about not enabling your daughter to drink and smoke all through high school?
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SD is an adult your SO isn't
SD is an adult your SO isn't responsible for her anymore. I get it your SO should be concerned about his daughter's well being but, an addict has to do it on their own all your SO can do is help guide or point your SD in the right direction. If your SD is truly an addict and continues down that path she needs to hit rock bottom and BM enabling her is a big mistake but that is her business of course. Your SO shouldn't enable SD either it will only make it worse trust me I am speaking from experience.
I totally agree. that is his
I totally agree. that is his stance. I can see he's worried, but we have enough people in our life who we've seen go through this. Unfortunately, we know how it can end. He knows he can't do anything for her. She is still on his insurance, so that helps with any professional help. Beyond that she has to want to fix this. We have a Bio Son too and neither of us want him to see her like this.
Just so sad. BM just annoys me to no end with her expectations.
BM keeping SO in the dark
BM keeping SO in the dark about problems with the skids and enabling them to drink and smoke (pot in our case) in high school and or junior high... Then of course BM will eventually blame SO for everything!
YUP Been there, still doing it, bought the T-shirt long ago!
Oh there are shirts! I should
Oh there are shirts! I should get one
Good grief! The writing was
Good grief! The writing was crystal clear on that one. But everyone wanted to assume she'd "grow out of it", that "all teenagers do it" etc. Just exactly like my SD19 and SS18 (who is a derailment waiting to happen) SD19 is getting by for the moment (actually finished her freshman year at college with a 3.3 GPA, but I'm telling you, just one tiny bump in her proverbial road and she will wreck.. guaranteed.
SS18 has pretty much already wrecked. He's a Sr. in HS but has no hopes of graduating unless he goes to summer school and attends school again all next year AND passes everything. We all know that's not going to happen. The last time DH had lunch with him, he said he acted like he was on horse tranquilizers. My guess is his dope smoking since the age of 12 or so, has turned into different drugs, but whatever. BM can't be bothered worrying about it as long as she's still getting her CS ya know plus she's got to keep her 24 year old husband on a short leash.. ain't nobody got time for drug addict, drop outs with no job and no future! DH offered to take SS NUMEROUS times over the past 5 years or so but heaven forbid BM have to pay DH CS!!! So her love of CS outweighs her want for SS to have a chance.
on a better note, how's your little man??! Is he in Kindergarten this year?
The parallels area always
The parallels area always uncanny, Daizy...
All we can do is watch.
He's good! No kindergarten this year. His birthday doesn't make the cut off date (late summer baby). He'll do pre-K. He's doing so well and such a busy thing.
How is yours!??
BS7 is finishing up FIRST
BS7 is finishing up FIRST grade. I could cry! Everyone warned me that once he got in school that time would fly at lightening speeds and it has! Thankfully he loves school (he's been going since Pre-K) and is excelling and doing great. He has his Brown belt in Tae Kwan Do, Gray belt in Jujitsu and playing Baseball right now and Soccer in the fall. Never a dull moment!
it truly does speed up.
it truly does speed up. lurch will be a senior in august. and oss graduated a year ago.
d@mn i feel old - lol!!!
It speeds up even faster when
It speeds up even faster when they are done school. I have 2 grandbabies! It wasn't that long ago that my kids were babies! :O
He's doing so amazing! I love
He's doing so amazing! I love all of the activities!! My little hates school, but I always did too... until college that is. I have been wanting to sign BS4 up in karate. We do soccer too!
Hey you! Firstly, can't
Hey you!
Firstly, can't believe your SD is 21... although she's pretty much the same age as my SS's.... so yeah.
And your little man is going to pre-K! How time flies!
Hi! Its been a while Time is
Hi! Its been a while
Time is going so fast. Great for skids growing, but not bios.
Hi! Its been a while Time is
Hi! Its been a while
Time is going so fast. Great for skids growing, but not bios.
I predict my skids turning
I predict my skids turning out the same exact way. I just sit back and tell DH that his snowflakes need discipline and structure and both of them probably wont even graduate HS. YSS is already a bully and OSS is a loner and manipulator. And BM over here would rather just keep getting CS and that is it.
Its amazing how well we see
Its amazing how well we see without those rose colored glasses. All you can do is prepare and put up boundaries. Guilty dads don't do anything to intercede.
".... I just sit back and
".... I just sit back and tell DH that his snowflakes need discipline and structure and both of them probably wont even graduate HS..."
:jawdrop:
WTF