I finally believe in Karma
hoooray BM is finally tossing and turning in the bed she made on her own. She caused havoc for DH and I for years, took the kids off him, told the kids lies about him and me, threatened everyone tried to get the kids to hate us. Though i dont really need to go into details because i can see most of us on here already know the drill and have been through it all too.
Anyway BM now has a boyfriend who is 11 years younger (he is 22) and she is a mega hypocrit as aparently i was too young for DH (we are same age, idiot didnt realise she complimented me massively) She rang DH for help because skids are really behaving badly towards her and the boyfriend. Not only do DH and I not care that they are but HAHAHAHAHAHAHA. They ring Dh everyday cos they hate her and her family that she lives with (her mum and dad) because they are all fighting and swearing at each other. DH wants to save them but i told him NO! she made this mess she can live with it and put up with the kids bad behaviour.
They hate her that much that SS13 sent her a text message saying exactly these words "where are you you fat fuck? i bet you are out fucking that little (boyfriends name)" HAHAHAHAHAHHHAAAAAA
BM sent it to DH to show him how they behave to her, but of course DH doesnt care and why should he? The skids are great with us!!! well they are lazy but they never ever are badly behaved or talk that way. I am not sure if BM wanted DH to talk to SS13 about it but he didnt.
All i can say is I TOLD YOU SO, i knew when the kids got that bit older they would figure it all out. When she had a boyfriend last time, who she got pregnant to she gave the kids to DH full time and then took them back off him when he met me. She is just a selfish low life and is now finally getting what she deserves... its is only going to get worse for her too cos SD is still only 10 and she hates her mum more than SS13
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I completely understand what
I completely understand what you are saying momster and yes DH was severly embarrassed and dissapointed with his son, and actually has spoken to SD10 about her behaviour towards BM however, we only can control what happens when they are in our care, which BM swore black and blue that DH was a terrible parent and should not have access to his children! and has encouraged these children to actually steal things from our home and told them to tell me to Fuck off, now this is BM's teachings not ours and unfortunately for DH she taught them well. She was proud of SS13 when he stole my sons things and took them home to her. She tells SS13 to snap my son in half. She told the kids i was a stripper. So after realising her lies and horribleness they have retaliated.
We only hope that we show them the way a family should behave towards each other and they show us the respect we also give them. We have never spoken badly about BM and we certainly dont endorse their bad behaviour to BM either. DH is a very proud man and is very firm with his children.
Would you believe she rang
Would you believe she rang hubby and asked him to take them, convenient considering she has a boyfriend now...and then she realised how much child support and government funding she would lose because she then told hubby she cant afford for him to have them. Now as usual she puts her own selfish needs before her children. We would struggle to get full custody. We just have to do our best
The BM in your situation is
The BM in your situation is the poster child for "you reap what you sow".
I would however coach DH to sit the kids down and inform them that under no circumstance are they to use the language or speak of any of their parents like that to anyone.
You don't want karma to come back on DH for not nipping this situation in the bud.
IMHO of course.
Best regards,
No Rags i dont want Karma to
No Rags i dont want Karma to come back on me which is why i dont encourage it and do make sure that the kids know i dont, but i certainly get a real good giggle about it. }:)
You know, as horrible as it seems, they are not my kids! and i have learnt to remember that as it keeps me sane
Laugh it up. I know that I
Laugh it up. I know that I would if I was in your shoes with the BM you have to deal with.
The startling result of
The startling result of raising kids to be little jerkbags is, lo and behold, sometimes BMs end up with teenagers that are little jerkbags, and then adults that are great big jerkbags. Funny how it comes full circle.
Maybe you're right. My
Maybe you're right.
My thought when I read it was 'Are there any responsible adults in this scenario?'
Maybe I read it wrong. It sounded to me like the dad and the OP think it's hilarious that the kids are so screwed up, as if them hating their mother is a GOOD thing, ie, their desire to see the mother in pain or rejected is more important to them than the child being happy is.
Plus, I take offense at the insinuation that a woman is trash if she has a younger boyfriend. I didn't think anyone still thought that way.
I think you have a
I think you have a point.
alwaysme, my apologies for jumping to conclusions.
SS13 sent her a text message
SS13 sent her a text message saying exactly these words "where are you you fat fuck? i bet you are out fucking that little (boyfriends name)
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*gasp* My mouth literally just dropped open at this. I am sorry but IMHO this is totally unacceptable for a 13 year old boy to be speaking to his mother this way. I don't care what she has or has not done. If he speaks to his mother this way, how is he going to treat other women in the future when he starts dating, etc.?
I hope that your husband plans on addressing this with his son as unacceptable behavior. I'm telling you right now, if I found out that my SS said that to his mother (or anyone for that matter) and my husband did not call him on it, I would probably be gone. I hate our BM just as much as the next person (and would probably be gloating a little that she managed to alienate her own son) but that is crossing the line in my book.
Thankyou StepAside you
Thankyou StepAside you completely understand what it was i was saying in my blog, The mother Taught her kids to speak this way and treat people this way. In no way do i condone this behaviour and my Hubby certainly does not either. As i said he was so ashamed and shocked by his son. However there is so little we can do other than teach them WHILE IN OUR CARE that you do not treat or talk to people in that way. And thankyou for sticking up for me, you actually got it!! I was venting and that is all, i never say these things at home to my husband or the children I do set a good example for them and am most definately a responsible adult.
My Ex-H allowed our daughter
My Ex-H allowed our daughter to do anything she wanted he was still cleaning her room at 12. She had very little respect for him but she treated no one else that way only him. We mainly fought over my trying to discipline her when he would tell her things like your mean mother this your mean mother that. Then when he really needed her to do something it was can you make your daughter do a,b,c etc. My answer was always I don't need her to do that so if you can't make her listen to you sucks for you. I don't think it's FH responsibilty to make their children listen to BM in her home it's her's. My daughter is now 21 and has a decent relationship with her father but she doesn't really respect him still. People will reap what they sow Karma is a bitch!!!!