I am so sick of her shit, i need advice on how to handle this situation and will make my blog as quick as possible to explain.
SD10 is a nasty selfish little girl, she lies so badly that i think she actually believes herself. She could do something right in front of you and look you in the eye and insist that she didnt and then carry on as if i am the idiot with the problem, she says "yep whatever, always me" "Yep thats right i am a retard".
When she gets asked to pick up her mess she has a right hissy fit and says "but i didnt have it" or "i didnt do it"
She is nasty and selfish to SS13 and BS12 she punches and kicks and swears. She is a constant smart ass to me. Hubby and i have had that many fights over her bullshit because he has never punished her.
She pulls the same shit at her mothers house, hates her mothers boyfriend calls him and her mother f*heads and C*nt. Well I warned DH that she is only going to get worse... she cries to DH to come get her when she is at BM house and doesnt get her way, and stupid DH does.
Well this morning she was told to do her dishes (DH is at work) the boys were already in the kitchen cleaning up and she was stuffing around outside so i told her to get in and help the boys well as usual she goes "i didnt even make a mess" so i blew up and told her tough luck get in and help. Afterwards she told the boys that she liked it better when it was just her, SS13 and her dad (a couple of months ago i left because we were having drama's and Sd10 was a part of those problems) so i confronted her and she said that yep she liked it better and that now she wants to go live with her mum... my response was "well pack your shit and go"
I even said get in the car i will take you there but by then she had already called her mother to come get her, so i said "good dont come back" (not the best reply but i was over her shit) her response was "dont worry i wont"

Anyway her mother came to get her, i called DH and told him about it and said i am NOT putting up with it anymore, she is no longer my problem. DH actually agrees with me, he is sick of it too, BM is sick of her shit as well despite the fact that BM has been a nasty bitch to us since day one. DH has pulled SD10 aside in the past and warned her that her behaviour has to stop but i told DH that she never suffers any consequences, she always says "well i can do that at mums house" or "Daddy lets me do it"

I have told DH that he needs to call her bluff and let her actually "live" with her mother then, SS13 can still come over but she made her choice and can no longer play these games. I told him HE alone needs to tell her enough is enough, she only listens to him because she "loves" her daddy. She doesnt care about anything BM and I say. I am really hoping DH does this because i know i cant stand it anymore, i have my own kids and i am pregnant we should not be playing her games anymore, he needs to make her live with her choice and realise that her behaviour is not to be tolerated anymore

Now what do i do if DH lets her back? what should i do about this, i shouldnt have to leave my husband just because of her, we have actually started to sort our own problems out. and he is actually starting to realise i am not putting up with it anymore. Yes i know she is only 10 but that is all the more reason why she should treat adults with respect, however i am pretty much more than happy to leave because i really am done with it, but i dont want to let a 10 year old win, i guess it just now depends on what DH plans on doing about it