Can't really blame the kids for being greedy and entitled. Look at the example their father is setting for them.

What grown ass man with SIX KIDS sits on his ass while his wife goes out and supports the seven of them???? :sick: :sick:

This guy is using you. His kids are learning to use you as well.

How in the world did this guy get you to agree to this craziness?

What do you need help with?

They're kids, they don't decide the family budget. I think you're right in how you distribute your income from work and your child support income.

If these teens can be taken seriously, you and DH can sit down with them to teach them about budgeting and planning for the future, get them taking on some responsibility within the family such as $xx and the responsibility to shop and prepare dinner once per week.

If they are just being selfish jerks, cut back on any extras they get from you until they are showing you serious appreciation. If they don't appreciate what they have, they don't need to have what they have.

8 kids and husband not working and skids trying to suck you dry ? Omg lol , changing my name and entering the witness protection program so none of them would ever find me again comes to mind .. Good luck sounds like a horrible life

I'm assuming some of your husband's kids are quite young if he needs to stay at home with them? Is it an option for him to get a job and put the young kids in daycare so that he can contribute to your household income?

I agree with your logic regarding the CS you receive from your ex. That money shouldn't be used to support your skids. It should either be spent on your kids or put away for them. It is too bad for your skids that their mom doesn't help out at all and it's probably hard for them to understand why your kids get things that they don't. But that's just how it is - life isn't fair.

I'm thinking DH should consider a night-stocking job at the local grocery or Walmart. Also, local police departments, hospitals etc have night jobs.

Otherwise, I'm voting to leave. You & biokids move into your own place. DH WILL support his children w/o your $$$$ and you will not be dragging down your own children.

.....sell those ungrateful children. Problem solved.

Your situation sounds very difficult, I hope something sorts it for you, you deserve a decent life.

How about those teenagers get a damm job to buy what they want. How old are they? Geez I couldn't do it. I feel sorry for your DD to be treated badly by her step-siblings.

Why would the teens even think about working when they are watching a grown man mooch off of his wife?

Why are you using your daughter's cs to support other people?? Your skids have a mother and a father, and they are the ONLY ones responsible for their children. You are being used, and misappropriating money that could go towards your daughter's college education, or a car, or whatever would best benefit her.

Your so-called marriage is completely out of balance. Tell your H that he needs to support his kids and pay his fair share of household expenses. You are robbing your own future by allowing this mooching and disrespect.

Damn I cant work out if I admire you or if I am worried for your mental health. You took on a man with 6 kids and hes not working?! Not even a little bit?!

I can TOTALLY see that with 8 kids in the house it would be cheaper to have one at home than paying for day care all day but that doesnt mean dad doesnt need to work. It means he needs to work around your hours. The kids are all in school, so daddy dearest needs to get a job thats either night shifts (so he can come home in the morning to see the kids to school, sleep then go get the kids) or he needs to work during school hours (good luck there) but he needs to be working something.

DH needs to get a job at night at Walmart so you can get a discount on all the stuff that a family that large must need.

I would tell the teenagers to screw themselves. I cannot stand greedy shits, adult or child.