backtalk what to do?!?!!
:? I'm very stressed! My Skid is a smart A$$ big time. BM doesnt seem to care. now its rubbing off on my DD. the therapist said to ignore it and it would go away. Yeah right, like that actually works!! But we tried it anyway, and we were correct, it just made it worse. So now we have decided to ground him, however, that also seems to have increased the problem.
Does anyone else have this problem or have a solution to this problem?
I see backtalking and eye-rolling as extremely disrespectful from a child. My DH agrees, but we do not know what else to try. I really just wanna smack the spoiled little brat in the mouth every time he walks past me and cocks his little attitude or rolls his little eyes at me. I really need a solution ASAP! Please help me
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Sorry I have no advice
Sorry I have no advice either, my skids are major smart*sses too, and FDH says they're just joking around. He doesn't always see the eyerolls ect.. I tell him they often treat me like crap, primarily SD13, I'm hoping it's just her age and she'll grow out of it. IMO she needs to be put in her place by FDH or BM but if BM did it she couldn't be her BFF, so that'll never happen.. 5 more years till she's 18, 7 till SS is..
ugh..nothing worse than when
ugh..nothing worse than when a kid does that. how old is ss?
How old is this kid? Work out
How old is this kid?
Work out what is his bargaining points. Does he have a cell phone? Disconnect the ersvice until he has an attitude adjustment.
Do you drive him to school? He will be bussing or walking for the forseeable future.
No pandering to his thasts in icecream or chips. If he only eats Heinz then use something generic instead.
Remind him when he does the eye roll/ talkback routine he is not doing himself any favours. And ignore all other requests for money and help. All his father HAS to do is provide him with a clean warm place to lay his head and food and he is safe. There is no law that says he needs X-Box or netflix on demand.
sadly he's only 7. he has no
sadly he's only 7. he has no cell phone, already took away the PS3 priveledges and tv priveledges. i do drive him to school but only because i want to drive my DD to school and they go to the same school. grounding in our house means no sweets, soda, desserts, or extra things like that, also no tv, video games, or going anywhere fun. Thats why i am so stressed, because ive removed all extras and its getting worse not better. i guess the only thing left to remove is the toys in his room *by the way* i have in the past had to go so far as to remove everything from his bedroom except his bed. even that didnt change his behavior. i feel like i shouldnt have to be dealing with this from a child this young. i didnt expect it for a few more years anyway. his bm is a major smart @$$ too so im figuring thats wehre he got it and thats prolly why she dont care.
Why is it that grounding a
Why is it that grounding a kid usually ends up punishing the parent ?????
A possible solution, which I saw posted on ST.
Every time the Skid is a smart A$$, give an immediate painful consequence and disengage-no discussion.
How it works:
Skid: "blah, blah, blah insert snotty skid comment here"
You: You are not permitted to talk to me like that, because you spoke to me in a way that was unacceptable. You will have to find another ride to dance practice.
Then, No discussion, no negotiation. Let them whine, call BM, whatever.
You are simply taking away a privilege.
I tried this technique and it worked, but I had to stop myself from listening/responding to the skid after I initiated the consequence.
I would say that the back talkies or snotty comments have been reduced by 75%.....
Your time and sanity are precious.
Good luck
That's great advice!
That's great advice!
I do not entertain a grounded
I do not entertain a grounded child. They must entertain me by doing EXTRA chores, plus no tv, video games, deserts, sweets, sodas, etc... My little bratty SKid couldnt care less about it, he doesnt care to be grounded or made to do chores. He doesnt do anything worth a crap, soo....
in my house, back talk = a
in my house, back talk = a pop on the butt and time out. period. everytime. no ifs, ands,or buts about it. as soon as kiddo does it, he stops mid sentence, gets that "im in trouble" look on his face and if he said it to dh he gets a pop on the rear and time out, if he said it to me i just pick him up, he starts howling and crying and i put him in time out. he rarely does it.