But actions are far more telling than words. Ss8 asks all the time (so dh says) when I'm at work when I'll be home. He asks when I am home when/if I have to go to work. Dh has repeatedly tried to convince me it is because he wants to see me. I made the point that he doesn't ask Dh constantly if he has to go or tell him that he COULD go and he (ss8) could go to grandmas or a sitter. So dh has started asking why when he asks if I have to go or when I'm going to be home. And now, ss8 has found the perfect reply: I miss her.....sure. You ignore me when I speak to you, you argue when I tell you something and you do reply, you shoot daggers when dad is agreeing with me, you try to occupy dad's time when he's doing anything with me or your sister or brothers ....yeah...you miss me...with invisible bullets...