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Sd13 almost 14 in a month. I just don't even know what to say. The police say the man she accused of molesting her eight years ago was innocent he offered DNA any offered to lie detector test. I found that all the things she has been saying to mresemblee telling me how people were talking about me and didn't like me saying mean things to her or abusing her was all b******* . The funny thing is after we told her I was pregnant again she's started it all back. From August through October things were so great my house. She was pleasant to be around it's sweet and nice and wasn't cutting yourself or being dramatic to the extreme. Unfortunately we told her I'm pregnant and she started all over again. She picked up a piece of glass and brought it home and left it in the shower for me to find so I would know she cut herself with it. is still little scratches not the cut but I called the pediatrician and tell them and asked if she needed a tetanus shot.

she has started up again with the behavior and I'm heartbroken. I'm so naive. I believe her that things are great when she was little I believe her the things are great at home this last year yes she is telling other people something completely different! We are so careful not to p*** her off offend her or make her feel in the least slighted in anyway or not the center of attention. Even with the baby had to go to the emergency room what he fell and bit his lip open the entire time we were there revolved around step daughter crying and flinging herself across the bed grabbing at the baby trying to kiss all over his face and sobbing.you know when somebody over does it trying to prove something to you prove that they love somebody and they say it over and over and over and then say do you believe me you believe me right.

I was afraid she would do this and she is. We are giving up our house like the house we bought we are getting into bankruptcy and moving to a rental house for a stepdaughter because she claims the neighbor was brainwashing her and grooming her to molest.

I am just heartbroken that she is still doing this stuff manipulating people trying 2 segregate peopleand I almost believed her about my grandmotherwhat I decided that I was going to confront my grandmother about it. Ci never confronted anybody because step daughter would cry and ball that get her and if I confronted them they would know if it was her that told on them and they would get her and so if I confronted her they would be just more mean to her or they would lie to me and say it didn't happen. However what is multiple adults all doing it and all going to be mean to her at all going to lie about it?

my grandmother swore on her soul she never said those things. I had talked to my sister in law who also confirmed step daughter was lying and making things up about that family.

other than continuing the psychiatrist and the weekly therapist, the only thing I know to do is no longer listen to anything she says to me. I am finally learning that this was not just I want an episode last year but definitely borderline. She got psychological testing and it came out only and PTSD but she mark everything so extreme they could not come through for any kind of diagnoses.

when things go well for a. Of timeI get logged into thinking everything is OK but not. All I can do is never give her an emotional reaction. However when she does not get the emotional reaction she wants she escalates the story making it bigger and worse until she does get a response. I am practicing saying oh I'm sorry honey that is horrible and not having any emotional response or believing it.

it is really sad. She is very pathetic and pitiful and I know she has these episodes of self loathing maybe she feels bad for all the methylation I don't know. There is nothing else to do she is under constant supervision it takes everything in me too costly supervise and have friends over here so she doesn't spend the night with friends because the risk to the parents is too high that she could make up something about their dad or someone in the household being mean losing her and abusing her.

that I hate that I fall back into it. I think this time I have learn. I cannot trust anything she says she will make up things about me to get pity for the teachers or somebody else and she will makeup sayingsabout other people to cause conflict or segregate me from my family.

I'm really scared she is going to say something that is made up and put my baby at risk or put me at risk of being called to CPS!I am very very careful around this girl and she has had nothing in her home lifethat could in any way shape or form resemble abuse.

it's pretty scary because she presents as the sweetest kindest most rational child and is extremely believable. Its very scary. I really wish I didn't have to be alone with her to the point of wishing I could get cameras in my house.and I am alone with her all day everyday this summer. It's only going to get worse as the pregnancy continues. If this baby is a girl god help us because step daughter jealousy is extreme and off the charts.

I pray the psychiatrist and therapist eventually figure things out that every adult her life is not abusing her and they do something to help her. I want her to have a happy life and her friendships and relationships are so chaotic and full of drama that she perpetuates. It is very sad.