Okay Monday morning venting. I've been holding back for a week now and am just about to blow. We've not seen or heard from the kids all week since the big blow out on Friday before Halloween or so I thought...Had a big discussion with BF on Friday because I was feeling like an outsider and wanted to be more involved and I wanted him to know that when he keeps things from me or doesn't explain why he deals with BM and skids the way he does that it really hurts me and leaves me in the dark. I also wanted him to know that I was on his side and felt that I could contribute since I love him and the kids. Of course I also found out during our conversation that since our episode with BM a week ago Friday that he had in fact talked with the kids, Of course the discussions were when BM felt like answering the phone and if BM felt like having him talk to the kids. He also called to see if we could get the kids on Saturday night and keep them until Sunday night when ss had hockey. She of course said "well they have a dance maybe you could bring them" and BF said sure tell me about it, what is it, what time, etc....she got pissed and said "NO you can't have them"!!! Suck a bitch she just totally set him up. But BF said to me well we could just go, the dance we found out was some kind of family thing at the skids school. I was like Yahoo that's the way....of course that didn't happen because he didn't want to upset the kids because he felt she would start something...Nice once again she controls the show.. She's just so nice.....AAAARRRGGGHHH! So Sunday night was the first night of ss playing hockey, time 6PM. What time did we get a phone call from BM with issue ..mmmm 5:30PM. Oh ya she didn't have his correct helmet and wanted BF to bring the one he had which wasn't proper equipment so ss wouldn't be able to play. BM said "well forget it then I'm turning around and going home". ..Again she was half way there (she lives about 45minutes away from where hockey was). . not to mention that he has all the equipment and the correct helmet and she had all freakin' day, week to get his bag packed correctly! But I digress. . . I was so mad that I wanted to grab that phone and give her a piece of my mind, but instead I started doing laundry (I always resort to cleaning and organizing). Anyway about 5:58PM she calls back saying that she's there and she's going to see if he's going to play, so we get all ready and go there and of course he's playing as they had extra helmets, but of course he's not wearing any of the proper clothing, except for the skates and gloves. BF was very upset (BF was a semi pro hockey player and takes this sport very seriously...well he takes every sport seriously). Anyway BM was seriously rude to me again and just a plain bitch the whole time. I knew this was going to be this way but I always hope it will be different. Anyway I stayed right there and didn't back down to her meaness knowing the she would slink her way into getting control. So hockey ends we are there helping her get all the stuff off of ss (well I wasn't but you knew that she wouldn't let me near ss. When all was done she put him on her back and took off like a bat out of hell. With a frown on her face and some unkind words.
So we come home and cook dinner and just as we start to sit down to eat she calls and wants to talk to BF....see I always know... he asks to call back and she agrees. He calls back and oh happy day.....remember now she hasn't allowed us to see them at all in over two weeks... but says oh ss has a doctors appt. on MOnday morning do you want to meet us there and oh would you like to have the kids tomorrow night because they don't have school on Tuesday, she then starts discussing the whole hockey thing and his outfit etc, etc. and they decide that Tuesday he can take ss shopping and she can do something with sd..I know however that they will all go together like one big happy family..oh happy day everything is just peachy....well not in my world. BF says well she must have had a change of heart from the time she left the hockey rink until she called because now she was being so nice and he was so happy and excited.. etc, etc.. OH MAN he can't be that dumb bullshit here's what happened folks, she was out of control pissed off that I was there at the hockey rink and she in no way was going to be nice, and then when she left she realized that she could create a plan to get her and BF together alone without me and once again have all the control and he just follows along like freakin' puppy dog.
Two things I will say is yes BF should be at the doctors appt. and yes he should bring him to purchase hockey equipment that is definately a father/son thing!
I think that what I'm most pissed off about is that she has all the control and we're like puppets, I"m not sure I can handle that.....I'm not sure I can accept that as my way of life....Sorry this is so long I shouldn't have waited so long to vent