Wait a minute - your BF's 27-year-old daughter and her husband are living in your basement, rent-free, and you feel you have a good partner?

Give us a shout when your BF actually makes them move out.

Hopefully you'll be able to get these freeloading adults out of your home very soon. Have you considered having a sit down with them and informing them that as of _____ they'll be expected to pay X in rent, Y in utilities, and Z for groceries? Don't make it a token amount either, or you'll never be rid of them.

This is also the time to plant the seed with your H that never again will adult children be allowed to live in your home. Get on the same page now, while the irritation is REAL.

Is moving out.   And no, paying rent is required, but not sufficient to stay on.   I am willing to accept DH teaching a 7 year old.    27 -- get him out NOW.  In some jurisdictions, it can be difficult to get rid of a leach (oops lodger)

He knows it turn out bad. There nothing he can say to make it right.  So he telling you he made a mistake.   Still does not makeingb his inviteing his DD into your home with out your input any better.  He still is wrong, you still have a problem with him. 

Can fend for themselves!

Im glad you updated, for the "before" and "after" affects, but dang!

Do they eat your food too?

Im also glad that your DH knows he made a wrong decision, but these two cretins be needing to have some heart to hearts with you. That inlcude move out dates.

I'm glad your DH has accepted and agreea that his daughter and her BF are lazy leeches.

HOWEVER, a tale of caution:

My FIL KNOWS that my BIL is a lazy, un/underemployed leech on society. He KNOWS that bailing him out over and over again doesn't do any long-term good.

Yet, love for a child is a powerful thing. He pays for EVERYTHING for BIL, and he's 45! BIL and MIL even live together, and my FIL pays the mortgage on their house. And he and MIL have been divorces for 20 YEARS!

My mom's best friends? Their kids are in their late-30s to early-40s. The BFFs have been kid-free for a grand total of maybe a year. Their son has 2 preteens and has been living with them for 4-5 years now. So what did he do to repay them? Knocked up his on again/off again GF.

Point is, paying lip service doesn't mean things will change. You still need to put a timeline for change on this. Your DH can make the decision today to start charging them even a menial $100/mo in rent and then give it back to them when they move out. He could give them a deadline by when they need to get out. Heck, he could pay the deposit and first month's rent on a place.

BUT, if all he does is say that he knows his daughter is worthless and says he agrees with your intuition, then you're marriage isn't any better off. He says it because he feels bad and wants you to lick his wounds and make him feel better. If he TRULY believes this is a problem and TRULY sees you as his partner and equal, then he'll act to make you comfortable again. If he won't, then it isn't worth fighting for someone who won't do the same for you.

At the end of your April 4th blog post, you gave an update on July 1st and commented, "She has a full-time job starting in August and they have told us they plan to have their own place by September." This is August 26th--September is 5 days away. However, you stated above, "If they're not out voluntarily within the next couple of weeks, they will be shown the door," which sounds like they WILL still be there in September and have no plans to be out. It sounds to me like your BF is doing nothing but giving you lip service about how right you were. Until he takes steps to get them out, I don't see how his words mean anything or could have drawn you closer. Oh, and you mention above that the SD27 is still working as a nanny, which is what she was doing in your original post back in April. Did the full-time job starting in August you mentioned on July 1st not pan out?  

Wait...so he's admitted he knew this would be a mistake but did it anyway.  That's it.  That doesn't make him a good partner.  You've been going through h*ll for months and they MIGHT be kicked out in a few weeks if they don't voluntarily leave?!  So when they don't leave in a few weeks (which they won't) what is your bf going to do then?

Giving you the words you want to hear means nothing.  Doing the actions is what counts.  They are clearly using you guys and clearly will not voluntarily leave.  Why should they?  Who would leave free room and board??  Who would let two people walk all over you for months?!  Then the only thing he does is give you words of b.s.

You don't have a great partner.  You have someone who knows what to say to get you off his back about the situation he's done absolutely nothing about for over a year.  You have a manipulator.

I know the situation is different, especially with the husband not working... And the 27 year old mooching... But DH and I did live with my in-laws for a period (year and a half of miserableness...)  He had just gotten out of the military, was in school, etc.  Inititially the plan was 3 months MAX, just until we got tax returns back and could use that as a down payment, and I could find employment down here.  I found employment quickly, BUT His ex defaulted on a million things she took out in his name that we didn't know about, AND got her car repossesed that she also bought in his name.  All taken through the bank he was using, so they took to the tune of thousands from his account and since one of the things she took out and maxed was a military star card, the government claimed all the tax returns.  That totally shot our finances.  However we contributed to the home, bought groceries, cooked, cleaned, etc.  Kept the girls in the smallest room in the house, with our clothes, put pretty well everything else in storage, and slept on an air mattress in the living room.  I hated it.  MIL never wanted us to leave, when we moved out (both super excited) MIL was all "you're going to regret this, you should stay longer!" But that wasn't going to happen...

That being said though, because I think a lot of parents want to help their kids, I hope this was a wakeup call for your SO, it sounds like it was, so I would give him the chance to get them out.  He said he is, let it be known it has to happen, then wait and see if he follows through.  If things really have gotten so great, I think that he'll make sure they're out for the better of everyone. And you'll have your space back! (something I know is needed! That was the hardest part about living with the in-laws!)