monday i came home from work...no water. i didnt say anything to SS. after the last blowout, i figured, i will let it slide...i really dont want him to think of me as the wicked witch of st. louis.

last nite, i come home...NO FREAKIN WATER AGAIN. i dont say anything bc i figure 1) what more can i say? 2) i cant make him care 3) if i do decide to say something it will be w FH so he can act as a referee if need be, and 4) at this point, im incapable of talking about it...i will probably scream or smack SS across the face.

so i told FH, just like i told him the nite before but monday i asked him not to say anything, lets see if it happens again. i didnt really think it would...at least not the very NEXT DAY. he tells me to say something to SS...honestly, im over it. hes obviously just lazy and doesnt care. and it really bugs me that he doesnt care enough about the dog to check on her water. she is not a high maintenance dog...okay, honestly, shes an attention whore, but we give her plenty of that when we get home, so all she really needs is some fresh water and to go outside to pee. THATS IT. we dont ask him to walk her, which i think he could be doing, if for no other reason that to get out of the house and away from the xbox for 15 mins a day. i digress. i told FH, u know maybe if u disciplined SS at all and gave him consequences for his actions he would think more about doing his chores...and caring for doggie while we are away is a chore. that, garbage and the dishes. come one...its not as if we treat him as our slave. FH tells me, i was already thinking i will take away the xbox. wait, what?! did i hear rite? youre actually going to...GASP! make him accountable for his (non)actions??? its like i heard the heavens open and the angels sing "halleluiah!"

FH gets home and goes downstairs for a talk w SS and comes back up w his xbox controllers. he said that SS admitted he didnt check on her water at all since he got home at NOON...i got home around 5...so all day, and it was at least 90 here yesterday, poor puppy was thirsty.

later as we're making dinner, FH starts talking AGAIN. im sitting there thinking honestly, is SS slow or what? how many freakin times do we need to have the conversation??? and bottom line, i dont care WHY its important to water her, at the end of the day, we ask him to and thats it...so he should obey. FH asks me if i have anything to add. i say no bc i honestly dont think SS needs to be told yet AGAIN about this, and im still feeling like if i open my mouth something really bitchy will come out. really i wanted to say "i dont understand why u cant do this...how many times do we need to tell u, how many times do we need to have this converstaion, and why dont u care enough about her to take care of her?" (that last one really gets me), but w my "tone" im sure it wouldve sounded really bitchy. FH told me that SS said she doesnt wanna play w him anymore and rusn away from him...wonder why??? hes neglecting her and she senses that. twice in teh past 2 days while i was busy doing stuff at home, i saw here go downstairs where he was bc she needed to go out. did he take her out? no...i had to go downstairs and let her out. which i dont mind, but obviously he shouldve recognized her doing this.

so here comes the absolutely maddening part of my ridiculously long winded story about my DOG...FH gave him the controllers back after the 2nd talk. yeah, u read rite. so the neglect and my feelings over it dont matter enough for FH to follow thru w his punishment and make him suffer for just ONE NITE??? i didnt say anything while i watched him do this. this morning we got into it. i told him i really dont understand why he did that and it really made me mad. he said he talked to him AGAIN about it before SS left for school...WTF is wrong w my FH??? how many times does he need to do the broken record thing w SS? UGH!!!!!!!!!

i asked FH, why are u so guilty about the fact that u arent w your kids' BMs that u are incapable of disciplining them? he says hes not. really? he has made strides w SD, but not SS. i know hes afraid SS will pull away from him like SS20 did if he starts being the mean parent, but honestly i dont think that disciplining ur kids when they do wrong is being mean. and now SS20 understands that FH was trying to teach him to be a responsible adult, and a man, and theyre fine now. i think FH expects too much of them at times...he thinks SS should be adult enough to realize what hes doing and u can reason w him and he will listen. good in theory, not so good in practice. it just makes me mad that what happened and how i felt about it apparently wasnt THAT big of a deal to FH. he says it was, he just talked to SS and it wont happen again, and if it does, there wil be repercussions. how many strikes does SS get before hes out, ya know? hes not listening and hes disobeying us and apparently, all that deserves is a "talk". grrrr....

anyway, im done venting...thanks for reading.