just another vent
FH just tells me that his appointment w the GAL is next sat at 9am...i am still so furious about this. i cannot believe they are making his 15yr old son be questioned about his relationship w his 3 yr old stepsister, just bc BM is a nutcase and lied about abuse. she didnt even bring it up in court or put it any court documents, FH mentioned the allegation as one more example of her harassment and abuse, which no one seems to care about. we all "have to live w it and deal w her bs for sd's sake" no, sorry, i dont. no one should have to put up w this wacko. and it just bothers me that SD is being put b4 SS in this whole thing. i still dont even understand why the judge appointed a GAL...sd has no idea whats going on and shes not in the middle. she is being taken care of just fine. the problem is that her whacko mother is hell bent on ruining our lives. sorry for sounding so bitchy...im just really over this whole mess and just pissed at the whole system here in MO.
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the system is screwed up here too
the judges here are so "pro-uterus" it's sickening...hopefully the judge will see right through your nutty BM and give her what she deserves!
thats the thing
i dont know exactly WHAT she deserves...i mean, i DO but not as far as how the legal system would punish
all we want is for her to leave us alone and quit w her false accusations. we dont want more time w SD, EOW is plenty. it would be different if she were abusing or neglecting SD, but shes not. all she does is lie to her and fill her head w bad things baout us, and while that sucks to do that to a little girl, we cant prove it, and we cant stop it. so i dont know exactly what is gonna come out of this next court date. FH is going to ask the GAL, and then the judge for a no harassment order and a communication journal, as suggested here by corie...thank u! hopefully that will work. we just cant keep living w her harassment and cant leave ourselves open for another abuse charge down the line.
Did you request a GAL for SS yet?
If not I would explain to GAL that you are making that request and would ask that the interview be postponed until SS's best interest could be represented as well.
“I never gave away anything without wishing I had kept it; nor kept it without wishing I had given it away.” ~Louise Brooks
he asked about it
and was told he would have to pay for it and that SS really doesnt need one. i know, i know, im pissed about this. the GAL said hes just gonna talk to him and its not gonna be anything major, like he wont be drilled or anything like that, basically just background questions...and i guess he wont have to testify in court, that the GALs findings will be sufficient. if we are told he has to go to court, then he will get a GAL bc hes not going thru that.
Are you allowed to be present? Or have your attorney present?
I would contact your attorney asap. I have been part of the GAL interview process, but I'm a grown up who chooses my words carefully.
If SS is being accused of wrong doing, then he deserves someone there to consult. I would not cooperate with an attorney who doesn't recognize that he is a juvenile with rights too. That GAL is assigned to your SD and has no obligation to confidentiality for your SS. Everything BM and we said to SD's GAL was in the report. EVERYTHING no matter how ridiculous. So how is a minor supposed to understand that and have his best interest protected without representation.
This is outrageous.
“I never gave away anything without wishing I had kept it; nor kept it without wishing I had given it away.” ~Louise Brooks
we dont have a lawyer
we cant afford one and we dont qualify for legal aid. i wish we could bc then maybe this mess wouldnt be so bad. maybe we should just get the GAL for him regardless of what SDs GAL says. im concerned too bc i know whats going on but i dont know if the GAL is gonna twist things or what hes gonna say. when we talked to him, he basically made it sound like BMs accusations were ridiculous and that the burden of proof would be on HER to prove this happened and what a little kid says isnt proof. i dont know anything about the GAL process...ive tried to look online, but i cant find much.
yes, my fiancee will be w him
shouldve mentioned that
I'm glad your fiancee will be with him....
But I would say you should ask around for inexpensive legal options. Have you contacted your county court system? Do they have anyone you can talk to?
Most attorney's offer a free consult. I would at least go that route.
Ask around. Ask any other attorneys you know who they would recommend based on your finances and the nature of the case.
I was lucky enough to personally know every kind of attorney in my area, including the county law director. I know them all from theatre and doing plays with them. The best recommendation came from the most respected lawyer/mediator/college professor in my county, who played my dad onstage when I was about 14
So I think he feels a slight fatherly protection for me. He told me exactly what attorney to get, and the guy was old school as far as fees. He actually had just raised his, but kept it at the old rate because of the recommendation.
The GAL was expensive, but we split the cost. Aren't you required to pay half of SD's GAL fee?
“I never gave away anything without wishing I had kept it; nor kept it without wishing I had given it away.” ~Louise Brooks
we have no idea
if we have to pay...it wasnt mentioned. i told FH he prob will, and he will be paying more than crazy but he said how can that be if it was ordred? hes so blind to the whole thing...i think thats part of the problem here...i think he doesnt think its a big deal for SS to talk to GAL bc thats how the GAL presented it...he was like, its no big deal, he didnt do anything wrong, hes a normal kid. after the allegation against me, he said its so ridiculous bc we all would have to be a bunch of psychos for BOTH of us to abuse the little princess. so he made it seem like hes on our side when i know hes not. as far as lawyers, we did a consult awhile ago, b4 she started w her abuse allegations...it cost around $200 for an hour and that was a low rate here. we did alot of shopping around and everyone we saw charged for the consult...true. this whole thing is so frustrating for me bc its not about SD, its about her crazy mother and her vindictive agenda. THATS what needs to stop...SD isnt in the middle, its just bc of her that crazy is able to do all this.
We requested the assignment of GAL
BM had to pay half. I have heard that this varies county to county as well as state to state. I would call the courthouse to see.
“I never gave away anything without wishing I had kept it; nor kept it without wishing I had given it away.” ~Louise Brooks
hes gonna ask
the judge ordered it here so i have no clue. i dont even see why SD needs a GAL...it just makes me mad. i dont know whats gonna come out of all this and im so scared