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Submitted by BettyRay on Thu, 12/26/2013 - 4:47pm

Just spoke with DH and went off on him about the lazy skids.

Christmas was nice but last night threw me over the edge. Background: SS16 & SS12 have no chores at our house. Every time I tried to DH would slack off and stop backing me up so I gave up. My fault - I know - I just get tired of being the harpy SM/wife. So DH and I are Burt the butler and Molly maid.

Last night the skids went to bed before DH and I. The living room was a mess. Okay, fine, I straighted that up. Proceed to the kitchen to let the dogs out and there are skid shoes all over the rug. Fine. I put all the skid shoes in a row so we don't trip over them.

Go upstairs to bed. I have to walk through the family room to get to our bedroom. The family room is a disaster, empty boxes and christmas presents strewn all over the furnitutre. All the stuff they just got was laying around like trash. So I picked up that mess then went to bed.

I told DH this has to change. I'm done. Those boys are just lazy and when they can't even pick up their christmas presents I just feel used. DH was silent and I know this upset him. He's going to want to fight about it when I get home. Fine, it's on.

~BettyRay

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omgsaveme's picture

Submitted by omgsaveme on Thu, 12/26/2013 - 4:51pm

Get your come backs going now, so you can fire them off, once he gets home. Its not unreasonable to have them pick up after themselves

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Submitted by Shaman29 on Thu, 12/26/2013 - 5:03pm

Even guests that visit your help often ask what they can do to help and/or clean up after themselves. Its common courtesy.

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Submitted by toywas on Fri, 12/27/2013 - 1:33pm

DH's kids have never done anything these past 13 years except take, take, and more take!

Now, if DH wants them to eat, he shops, cooks, feeds, and cleans up after them. Last year it took him 3 days to finish dishes - THESE ARE ADULTS!!!

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Submitted by MarriedaBalless... on Thu, 12/26/2013 - 5:13pm

I feel your pain. I've lived it for 10 miserable years and it has never changed. I feel like you do. I've even brought it up in marriage counseling (several times) and the counselor agrees the kids need chores and to help around the house more, but they never do. Ever.

Our house also looks like a bomb went off in it. I just left it that way. They go back to their mom's tomorrow and I've decided whatever is not picked up will be hidden from them.

I also didn't let them put up the tree this year because getting any help either putting it up or taking it down is damn near impossible.

My skids also have no chores. So, after years of being extremely upset by it and feeling used like a maid I hired a house cleaning service. They come 2 times a month and DH gets to pay for it.

Your DH is actually hurting them by not having them do chores, etc. This is how the little fuckers learn work ethic.

It seems to be a common theme among divorced dads. Dumbasses.