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Submitted by BettyRay on Thu, 02/21/2013 - 8:38am

I found an iPod Touch this morning. Sitting all by its lonesome on the backseat of DH's car (we switched cars for the day). It belongs to SS11. Since the boys were dropped off at BM's on Monday morning its been riding around back there all week. N.I.C.E.

I took it out of the car and am storing it in a safe place. This has happened a few times before and DH always gives it back to SS11. I've decided I'm not going to say anything to anyone and see how this plays out.

This should be interesting since we're going to visit my inlaws this weekend. They live over 2 hours away. SS11 will be going nuts without his iPod }:)

I really hate how my ssons don't take care of their stuff. They think everything is disposable and replaceable. It's sad.

~BettyRay

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Submitted by RedWingsFan on Thu, 02/21/2013 - 9:31am

I had to teach my daughter this lesson with her cell phone once. She learned after it "disappeared" and I asked her where it was and she claimed she left it at a friend's place. Of course, the friend couldn't find it, since I had found it under the seat of the car.

I held onto it for 2 weeks and let her sweat it out. Finally, I handed it over and told her to keep a closer eye on her things or they'd disappear for good. She's never lost another electronic thing!

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Submitted by BettyRay on Thu, 02/21/2013 - 1:44pm

My thoughts exactly.

~BettyRay

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Submitted by GhostWhoCooksDinner on Thu, 02/21/2013 - 9:42am

I have to agree with RedWings. I did this once with BS16 and his cell phone, and he's never misplaced it again.

It is sad that some kids- my SSs included- wouldn't even mention it again. Out of sight, out of mind. Mom will just buy me a new one.

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Submitted by RedWingsFan on Thu, 02/21/2013 - 9:53am

I just don't understand the sense of entitlement with these kids nowadays! Shit, you have to TEACH them how to be responsible with their things!

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Submitted by RedWingsFan on Thu, 02/21/2013 - 10:07am

Yeah I get what you're saying about the SM staying out of teaching the skids their lessons, especially if dear daddy isn't doing it.

I also understand the frustration of the OP in this situation where something expensive (the ipod touch) that could have come out of their joint funds for SS (I'm purely speculating here) would be a touchy subject for OP that SS isn't taking care of it and her desire to want to teach him a lesson about responsibility since dear daddy's not doing a damn thing.

Had this been my situation, in the beginning of my and DH's relationship, I probably would've said something to him about it and let the chips fall where they may with SD. Had *I* bought the ipod for the skid, I would've taken it just as I did with my daughter's cell phone. Had it been a gift from someone else and I wasn't involved with discipline or creating structure, I would've ignored it completely I suppose.

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Submitted by PeanutandSons on Thu, 02/21/2013 - 9:57am

I agree with Cheri..... No need to stress your self over this kind of crap. Its dads car and dads kid...let dads car get broken into and the iPod stolen. If you've broached this subject of irresponsibility to dad and he blew you off....be done with it. Let the little skiddies lose all their stuff.

Not your kid..not your problem. Don't go looking for problems.

Now, if it were my kid I would do exactly what you've done.

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Submitted by Jsmom on Thu, 02/21/2013 - 11:01am

Just put it away somewhere for awhile. If you are disengaged, leave it there and leave the car unlocked...If you are involved, hide it until the kid admits he lost it. Then use it to freak them out. Did it with Bio son and now he loses nothing.

DH does this with SS all the time and he learns nothing.

This totally depends on whether you are involved in their parenting.