Kid Art and BS
The school art show was this week. It wasn’t as bad as last year. Although I think I’ve mellowed. I feel sad for FH. Yet again BM collected all the boys art pieces and didn’t offer any of their artwork to FH. And yet again the boys ignored us.
I feel it would be easier on the boys if BM would at least acknowledge us by saying ‘hello’ – her ignoring FH sets the tone for the boys.
FH told me ahead of time he wasn’t going to ask for any of their artwork. He did last year and it caused big-time drama with BM. I respect his decision but feel sad about it just the same. He has just as much right to it as she does.
I still feel awkward when we’re all together (BM, SS11, SS6, FH and myself). It was BM running the show with SSons in tow, FH following them around and me following him – ugh.
There was one moment where I thought this is it the s**t is going to hit the fan. We went to the school music room to watch SS6 musical program BM got there first. She had saved a seat for SS11 and FH but not me. I offered to stand in the back of the room to avoid a scene. FH said no way and that he would stand with me he wasn’t going to put up with her treating us that way. Luckily one of the other parents we know realized what was going on and was able to get a chair for me. It melted my heart all over again when he stuck up for me. He always does but it meant more because we were at the boy’s school, in front of BM, her friends and the SSons.
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Amazing BM would ignore even yours and DH's presence and makes the kids do the same! I am SO GLAD someone modeled good manners for the kids, by getting the seat!! and you and DH for offering to stand. You showed class and someone else showed their *ss! ha ha, sorry dear
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Kid Art and BS (Update)
Well BM asked FH if he wanted any of the SSons artwork on Friday when he picked them up for our weekend. He declined because he didn't want to go in her house to look at it (the sight of her makes him literally ill).
He did ask her why she was hoarding it at the show and she said it was because she want to keep all of their art "together". Whatever.
It's better than last year when he asked SS11 (then 10) for a piece of his art. SS11 was thrilled and picked out the piece he wanted FH to have only to have BM say that was the piece she wanted. FH told SS11 to pick something else out and he said no he want FH to have that piece and gave it to FH. We framed it and hung it in the living room. Well...
The next time we had SS11 for visitation he was studying his artwork with a freaked-out look on his face. I asked him what was wrong and he said BM wanted him to make a piece of artwork just like the one he gave FH for her B-Day. We ended up giving it to SS11 to give to her.
It's hanging in her living room as I type this.