Another day, another day of trying to not lose my mind.
My day started out around 6 am her jumping down stairs and then slamming her door open, waking her younger sister up. Waking up to the sound of that then the younger one crying due to being startled EVERY morning is really getting to me. This happens every day no matter what I do or say. It's a battle every morning getting her to listen to anything I say. I'm going to lose my mind
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From your bio, she is 6.. is
From your bio, she is 6.. is her dad around when she wakes up? if not, have you tried to supervise her morning by getting her up and "quietly" getting her going.. reminding her to be quiet? She is pretty young.. but with "training" should be able to manage a bit better "inside voice" behavior.
Tried it all
No her dad is not around. I've been trying to get her in a routine since she was in Pre-K. I have a talk with her every single night telling her reminding her that Mommy will wake her up and every morning she disregard that information and comes out like that every single morning. It literally drives me insane everything about this child she does not listen to me I don't understand it like literally listens to me about nothing. She knows every night when I used to have her routine for bed which we have no problem with that in the morning that Mommy gets her up gets her clothes ready it's her breakfast ready ready for the bus. But it's almost like every morning Siri says and just either doesn't remember or doesn't listen but she understands about listening when it comes to her TV and tablet
Have you tried to get ahead
Have you tried to get ahead of her then? get her up before she gets up?
Also.. when she does that .. the consequence should be immediately "redoing" that routine. with you walking her through the correct way to get up and be quiet and considerate. she may tire of being "put back in bed.. and having to get up and do everything all over again every day". You can also do a reward/consequence board.. every time she wakes up and does it quietly.. she gets a star.. X number of stars and she gets a treat like a pastry for breakfast etc.. but a loud wakeup? she gets the repeat redo consequence and loses a star.. she will lose some privilege if her stars go "negative".. like no TV or tablet after school?
I really wish it was that
I really wish it was that simple I tried the reward system with star stickers it's almost like she's seriously just doesn't care. I get up before every day to get things ready but she still doesn't listen and still comes out on her own and does that every morning and dad doesn't help because he's already gone for the day for work
wake her up when you get up
wake her up when you get up and bring her downstairs with you...
Or.. again.. make her wash repeat her morning cycle with you standing over her.
It sounds like she does listen with other things.. it may be that mornings are extra hard?
But.. if she can't listen then she loses the opportunity to get up on her own.. you go wake her up when you get up.. she can sit in the kitchen while you get everything ready.
This is exactly what I
This is exactly what I thought and would do if she is 6. Wait for her, then have her do it again while you are right there. Like making sure she's brushing her teeth.
She'll do this forever if you don't stop it.
What is your husband doing
What is your husband doing about this? You need his backup.If he doesn't understand the problem or doesn't see it, leave him on his own with all of the kids and go see your family for a weekend - you could do with the rest.
Besides that, every time she "forgets" how to behave she loses something. I'd start with her bedroom door so she can't slam it any more. Then take away her tablet and her TV and make her earn them back via good behaviour for X days.
In all honesty I've been
In all honesty I've been raising this girl since she was 10 months old I loved her like she was my own since the beginning and nothing has changed I still love her but everything is coming to a head I'm so tired of the disrespect and her not listening to me I would be this irritated if it was my own biological child treating me this way. I told my husband that I would be damned if my son who was not his biological son treated him this way and didn't listen to him or respect him just six years of the same thing constant misbehaving and disrespect towards me and not listening has seriously made me contemplate leaving my marriage and sorry if that sounds rough but I just can't do it no more I'm exhausted
Where is her mother?
Where is her mother?
What does your husband do to back you up? Do you feel like an equal parent?
Your bio says you are a SAHM. Maybe it's time to get back in the work force. Have your husband wake her up and take her to daycare in the the morning before he leaves. Maybe you can do that anyway.
Another option would be to beat her wake up time. Be there and ready for her to walk out of her room. Park a chair in front of her door with a cup of coffee in hand and as soon as she opens it "Don't you dare slam that door". Then walk around with her showing her again and again proper behavior for the morning. At 6, she is still young and trainable, especially since you have been in her life so long.
Every time she does this in
Every time she does this in morning she goes to bed that night earlier.
Given her age.. I think a
Given her age.. I think a more immediate consequence may drive home the lesson more (but you could also add the earlier bedtime as an additional punishment with a reminder that she is going to bed earlier because she wasn't quiet when she got up that morning)
I kind of like making her get back into bed in her PJ's.. and walking her through the quiet process painstakingly.. making her repeat each step if she is too loud.. and perhaps starting with getting her up with OP for a while since she can't be trusted to remember her morning manners.
Remove the door.
Remove the door.