Let me start with a brief history. My husband and I have been together for 2 years. I was previously married for 10 and have 3 kids with my ex. He was previously married twice and has a child with each ex-wife, both of whom cheated during their marriage and has a child from that as well. He takes care of both of these other kids as well. He has been divorced from the last "ex" for 7 years. My issue is this, I just found out he lied to me about reconciling with his ex 3 years ago...for their daughters sake. First let me say that to jump back into bed with someone who cheated on you and had a baby by that person completely grosses me out. Part of my issue comes from him feeling the need to tell me about things like how he picked out her engagement ring, how they got married....and wanted to do it the same way with me, he has slipped up and called her his wife a few times recently. He can;t say no to her on anything and she takes full advantage of this. He pays for both his daughter's and her sister's baseball, book fairs, etc. Anything the ex calls for he writes a check. His first ex wife does the same. We just found out that he has a bunch of medical bills from the child she had by cheating, on his credit report. She uses his insurance for this child and doesn't pay the bill, so he supports 4 children. Of course, when the ex is mad, she takes the child away. We brought his daughter from the last ex and her sister on vacation...the sister is a little love bug...and my kids on vacation. We got home and found out about a bunch of bills she put in his name and called her on it. She took the sister away for 3 months.
I can not help but feel that he is hung up on her. He confused his daughter by taking them on vacation 3 years ago and sharing a bed with his ex...whom he had been divorced from for 4 years at that point. Now, his daughter is terrible to me, the sister is great. With the way he jumps when she says jump and the fact that he will NOT set boundries with her because he is afraid she'll take away the other child, I just don't think our marriage is going to work. Any advice would be GREATLY appreciated....Ask any questions if I've been too long winded and short on detail...