DH and I went to Vegas Friday- Sunday. SS stayed with his grandparents (BM's dad and stepmom). She has been texting SS like crazy lately, he responds to her once every 10 or so texts. And it's always just a one work answer. So it started heavy on Friday.
- HEY SS
- HEY SS
- HI SS, what are you up to
- SS, what are you up to?
GRANDPA'S
- OH, that's cool
- Are you there all weekend
- SS, are you spending the whole weekend there
- SS... will you be at grandpa's all weekend
YEAH
- That's cool. Next time you are there, I'd like to come spend some time with you.
- What are you guys doing?
- Are you having fun
- Hi Hun
- Hi Hun
- Hi Hun
- Hi Hun
- Hi Hun
YOU JUST SENT ME THE SAME TEXT FIVE TIMES. PLEASE STOP.
- No I didn't SS
YES YOU DID.
- No, I didn't. Don't be disrespectful
YES YOU DID. THERE IS EITHER SOMETHING WRONG WITH YOUR PHONE OR SOMETHING WRONG WITH YOU.
- Goodnight, I love you
- Good Morning, what are you guys up to today?
- Hey
- Have a good day

Meanwhile, SS's grandpa is sick, so he is spending time with grandma mostly (BM's stepmom). They went to the movies, and out for sushi... played dominoes. She truly loves SS. And he loves her.

When she dropped him off at home Sunday afternoon, I walked her out to her car. She said that SS really opened up to her about BM. Told her why he doesn't want to see her, how much he knows about her drug use how she blows up his phone and it drives him crazy. Apparently he handed grandma his phone and let her see all of her texts.

Grandpa is still pretty protective of BM. And... I guess I get that, it is his daughter. He feels somewhat responsible for how she turned out. He did raise her... and he has enabled her for a LONG time. So SS told his grandma that he doesn't like discussing BM and why he doesn't want to have a relationship with her right now with his grandpa because he defends her, and he doesn't understand everything that BM has put him through. Grandma told him that she understands and that she knows grandpa pressures him in to seeing BM sometimes. She also told him that she would talk to him about it so he doesn't do it anymore. We will see if that happens.

I am really proud of SS for being honest with his grandma. He is so respectful and would never challenge his grandfather. But now maybe he won't feel like he has to. Grandma, is BM's STEPmom, so there are issues there that we are ALL familiar with. She wasn't allowed to discipline BM growing up (even though she lived in HER house) she wasn't allowed to parent her, and even to this day, she is barely allowed to mention BM to her husband. I feel bad for her. But I do appreciate her being the liaison for SS. He feels like he now has a voice with his grandparents. He said he had a great time with his grandma.

She told me that BM is no longer working (I already assumed that) and that she had mentioned moving up to their town and looking for a job there. Her dad immediately put the kibosh on that plan when she said "I'll get to see SS more". I guess he told her "No, our time with SS is OURS and not for you to intrude on". Thank goodness!