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What The Hell Happened Last Night?!!?(some language)

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Submitted by Bubbly1 on Wed, 02/15/2012 - 8:04am

:? MY BIO-KIDS ruined my v-day with fdh. Had a wonderful day pampering myself, hair and nails done, a little retail therapy. Ran a little late getting home, so the two hour drive to drop the kids off at Grandma's was out of the question. They all get pissy and my dd13 takes my phone and texts her friend calling me a "cooch" and a "bitch" because I wouldn't drop plans with fdh and take them.
I went to a new stylist yesterday, she's 19 and fresh outta school. So I had NO IDEA it would take as long as it did for her to do my hair. I had highlights, a trim, and a deep conditioning treatment done. (My hair is waist length and very thick) so it took a while! I got to the salon at 10:00 a.m! I didn't get home till a little after six! Driving 80 on the interstate to get home!!

So I get here and fdh thinks we should keep the kids and have our romantic dinner with them. Problem is I had the butcher cut a steak in the shape of a heart, had two baked potato's, two artichoke, two shrimp cocktail and I had nothing for them! So last minute we run and grab them pizza. We get home, start cooking everything and all of a sudden no ones hungry. Fdh gets upset by this and calls them out on it. They had been claiming starvation just an hour before! Bs15 proceeds to get in fdh's face bowing up like he's gonna swing (bs is 5'8 140 lbs, fdh is 6'3 230) I jump in between them and then dd13 charges at fdh!! It was a fucking free for all in my living room!! (My kids witnessed my abuse at the hands of X-asshole and now think this is ok, YES, they're in therapy and so am I) my little ones were crying, big ones fuming, I'm in the corner having a nervous breakdown, and fdh has his hands behind his back holding himself from knocking this brat ass kid to the floor!

Finally things calm down, bd and bs go outside and to a neighbors where they stayed the night. Fdh cooks the beautiful dinner I had planned, but my appetite was just gone. And our day was just ruined! All because they wanted to go to Grandma's and I said no, they acted like entitled spoiled ass brats and that's out of character for them. I don't know what the HELL happened last night, and I'm just hurt, angry, and more confused this morning. Not with fdh, who handled it like a trooper (I would've knocked his ass out and he's MY KID) but, with my kids! What the FuCK got into them last night I may never know!

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Submitted by Willow2010 on Wed, 02/15/2012 - 8:11am

:jawdrop: Wow!! I wonder if we will see your DH on here today complaining about his skids? LOL. JK.

Seriously...what are you gonna do to the little darlings? I'm not sure I would have let them hide at the neighbors!!

FYI - Alot of us SM's on here would be demanding that the kids be kicked out of the house for something like this. Just food for thought.

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Submitted by Bubbly1 on Wed, 02/15/2012 - 8:25am

Bs is already moving in with his bd this summer. Dd might just follow him. I've already removed all electronics from their rooms(last night)

Thing is, this is SO out of character for BOTH of them! I'm so confused about what the hell happened? They are usually very loving (always hugs and kisses goodnight, for me AND fdh) well mannered, good kids! Its like they morphed into these strangers I'd never seen before last night! Their bd lives 8 hours away, and spends as much time as possible with them, but fdh is their Dad in everyday life. For them to do a total 180 like they did is odd to say the least.

Any recommendations will be GREATLY appreciated! I'm just lost here, those were not my kids last night!

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Submitted by Bubbly1 on Wed, 02/15/2012 - 12:54pm

Thanks Mazzy, I was to shocked last night to process what was happening. I really just wanted to fade into the carpet and disappear. No such luck I'm afraid.

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Submitted by Willow2010 on Wed, 02/15/2012 - 9:03am

You may not want to hear this...but...have you thought maybe they did some type of drug today?

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Submitted by DeeDeeTX on Wed, 02/15/2012 - 9:21am

Just kinda OT, I have no clue about the kids' behavior, but I have had SLOW stylists before. I think as women we just don't like to speak up, but I just got so tired of it. Now, if I see my stylist is going slow as molasses, I tell them,"hey I have an appointment at X time....do you think you can be done by then? Because I can't miss it."

I have never had one that didn't speed right up and get me out the door for my "appointment".

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Submitted by 3littlemonkeys on Wed, 02/15/2012 - 10:23am

Sorry, I got stuck at your daughter calling you a "cooch." WTF?

I agree with the above... have you ever drug tested them?
Also, the reaction is so over the top, there must be something else going on with them.

(PS: Next time, when they say they aren't hungry, I'd say, "Well, eat now or eat tomorrow." and leave it at that.)

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Submitted by Bubbly1 on Wed, 02/15/2012 - 11:34am

Ds has told me he's smoked pot before. But, that mellows you out. Not the way he was acting at all! They didn't look high. I've worked in the ER so I've pretty much seen it all when it comes to drug highs.

As far as their dad and I, we've been divorced for 8 years, separated for 11, they have very little to no memory of he and I together. So I'm pretty sure it wasn't that.

I love the apology letter idea! That's a good one. Fdh and I had lunch today and discussed what our approach will be. Tonight when he gets home we plan to sit them down and ask them what their punishment should be. If we don't like their ideas this is what we came up with. They are;

a) all electronics are gone for a month. ie; phone, video games, tv, stereo.
b) no going outside period.
c) apology letter to be completed before restriction is.
d) they have to apologize to their little brother and sisters for scaring them last night.

Any other suggestions?