Ok, i realize that adjoining families are a sensitive issue. It is an adjustment for all parties involved. I've raised my biological children as a single mom the best way I knew and know, with the structure that I come from. Simply put, I had rules and when they were broken, correction was implemented. Take that however you want. However, pouting nor disrespect was EVER tolerated nor overlooked. I have 3 bio-boys. Two are of adult age and in college and exemplary young men. Now that dh has acquired custody of both ss & sd(9), sd is a brat that regresses to a 5 year old with tantrums and pouting when she doesn't, get her way. Naturally I can't be the one to bestow the necessary correction because sd doesn't do the things with me that she does with dh. So I subtly try to let dh know what's needed, but in the meantime it's causing a problem with me and sd's relationship. It's driving me nuts. I'm not mistreating her, but it has become difficult for me to just want to be genuinely nice to her. I have to put forth effort just to be nice to sd. HELP!!!