i am a stepmother of 2. their ages are 16&17. they have lived with us for 9 year but the girl just moved out.they moved in 2 weeks after we got married . my husband works 4/12,so they stay with me.boy do i have the fun . they have smoked pot and have had sex.dont help around the house and leave when they want to . they act like they are 21 are something. my husband says they are teenagers. that right i tell him not 21,so treat them like teenagers. make them help and go to school and have respect for others. i also have 4 kids with this man and i hope they dont pick up wat these kids are doin and i try to tell him that but it goes in one ear and out the other. i have been dealin with this for 9 years and i'm about sick of it.they lie on their mom when they could not get their way. so i felt bad and wanted to get them and now it is back and frouth from their mom to their dad. the mom dont deal with us she talks only to them not much with us. in 9 years i only had to deal with har 5 times. not much in their lives. and wat get me is my husband tells me i dont like them cause they are stepkids. but that is the worst thing he could ever say to me i feel. he makes me not like them. he the one who does not not makes them do wat they are told. he could make it better for us. but he dont. these kids have about wrecked our family. they dont respect the kids. i think im about to go crazy