Hi all, I have a really weird question. Ok, a little background.... My husband and I have 4 kiddos between us. I have bs's 18 and 14, and he has bd's 15 and 12. We have split 50/50 custody of his girls and my boys are with us 100%. We used to have a very active sex life and probably still would except that I refuse to have intimate relations with him when his girls are with us. Ok, sounds stupid I know but this is the reason. We dated for almost 3 years before moving in together. He basically lived with me and my boys during this time except EOW when he had his girls. I am not stupid enough to think that my BS's did not hear us having sex because the walls in my apartment were paper thin and our rooms were right next to each other, however in 3 years time they never, ever made an issue of it. They have too much respect for me to say anything. On the other hand, the two SD's decided to announce not only what I feel is totally inappropriate conversation, but to do so in front of their BM's ENTIRE FAMILY at a bbq, that they were forced to go outside one night because they heard sexual noises coming from our bedroom. Yes, TRUE STORY. The reason we know is BM decided to confront my DH with this little tidbit of information when dropping the girls off for their weekly vacation at our home. She also stated to my DH that they should not receive any punishment as they were just stating something that made them uncomfortable. Can we say BULLSHIT!!!!! They are both old enough to know that this is an inappropriate conversation for ANY arena. Also, there is NO WAY they heard any noise as I am quiet as a church mouse when they are there and our bedroom is all the way across the house from theirs. The only way they would hear anything is if they had a magnifier pressed to our bedroom door or a hidden microphone inside our bedroom. I was so humiliated and hurt by this that I cannot in any way shape or form get excited by my husband or the prospect of anything sexual when they invade my home for their weekly visits. Is this wrong and if so what can I do? I feel like there is a wedge between me and DH when they are here and I do not in any way shape or form want this to continue. When he asks me why I turn him away and I explain how I feel he says I need to get over it. But how do I get past the embarassment and humiliation I feel knowing the BM and her entire family got a huge laugh out of this and a glimpse into my very personal life compliments of the two entitled princesses? Does anyone have suggestions? I would greatly appreciate anyones thoughts on this as I don't want this to continue to dictate my DH's and my intimacy.