Out of sight out of mind
Miracle of miracles, BM found a house to rent and the sale of her and DH's place is moving toward reality. Problem is, she completely trashed the place (pretty much picked out the things she wanted and left everything else a huge mess). We are talking cabinets and closets full of stuff, trash on the floor, dishes in the sink.
To top it all off, when she and a friend removed the fridge, they conveniently forgot to turn the water line off and the water ran a week before being discovered, causing the ceiling in the downstairs storage basement to collapse and flooding the area with inches of water.
The entire downstairs basement is full floor to ceiling with crap (think QVC hound with a short attention span for items purchased and no sense of the value of money spent), which DH agreed to haul off to the dump, but having not lived in the upstairs portion of the house for three years (they were separated for a year before finalizing their divorce two years ago-part of their MSA allowed her to live in the house until the sale date agreed to be this October), it is her responsibility to clean up after herself. I doubt this will happen, as she has always believed it is someone else's responsibility to deal with whatever she has no interest in handling, and blames DH for failing as a husband despite the fact she was a serial cheater and dumped him.
I am trying really hard to stay out of it, because it is his business, not mine, but I am just so completely pissed she feels it is someone else's responsibility to clean up her filthy mess without having to pay for it. Who does that?
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Is BM a hoarder? That is
Is BM a hoarder? That is awful, what she did to that house. I don't blame you for being pissed, I would be, too.
I am so freakin' glad that my DH did not own a home with BM. She would have gone into foreclosure, for sure. She gets evicted from EVERY place that she rents and we are talking over a span of 21 years. Fifty years old (or close) and still as irresponsible as hell.
DH had to threaten her to get his name off of their checking account (which he did not use) in case she bounced checks. I think that's why she didn't want to take his name off, so that he would be a responsible party. She also opened credit card accounts when they were married and added DH without his knowing about it. The judge did not make DH pay any of that debt.
So much crap to deal with, and someone else's crap, at that.
Not so much a hoarder as a
Not so much a hoarder as a lazy slob with a "keeping up with the joneses/fad of the minute" thing. She has never financially taken care of herself and spends money like she has it.
What a rude awakening she is in for when it comes time to divvy up the escrow check--she tried to have the proceeds spilt 50-50, without first deducting the bills (including 24k to her mom and 18k to DH's dad, half the cost of the divorce mediation, etc) as outlined in the MSA. Nope!
You got that right (though I
You got that right (though I hate to not help DH, I drew the line here)!!
BM1 does that. DH was a
BM1 does that. DH was a freaking idiot fool back in the day and right before he and I started dating, he fell for some sob story from BM1 that her baby daddy #2 was beating her, and DH let her move into a rental house that he owned. He mistakenly thought it would be a good deal for him because BM1 had Section 8, so $700.00 a month of the $800.00 rent was paid by them. BM was just responsible for the remaining $100 and utilities. Of course that only lasted about 6 months before she stopped paying her portion of the rent and utilities (which were still in DH name) So 5 months later, and over $1,000 in the hole, I told DH enough. Get her the hell out...if she can't pay $200.00 for rent/utilities, she sure as shit is not going to be able to come up with the $1,200 she is behind, so why drag this out any longer??? Of course she refused to leave (again who does this???)so we had to do the whole eviction process which of course moves at a snails pace. We ended up getting her evicted and the judge told him that he should file a judgment against her for damages and unpaid rent, but we didn't bother because she doesn't work and there are already 10 other judgments in front of us, so it's pointless.
When she left, she left 75% of the one car garage full of garbage bags full of dirty diapers, and a whole shed out back full of dirty diapers, left piles of clothes, shoes, old car seats, garbage etc. that WE had to clean up. I freaking hated her (well still do) And wondered at how people actually act like this???? I mean, here DH was, trying to be nice and help her out and this was the thanks he got??
Some people truly don't care about anyone but themselves.
Why, oh why, would anybody
Why, oh why, would anybody stockpile dirty diapers? Disgusting.
Sheer laziness. Our rental
Sheer laziness. Our rental house is out in the country so no garbage pick up, unless you pay for it. So of course she wasn't going to be bothered to do that!
Speaking of garbage pick up, that reminds me of a hilarious BM1 story! She was dating this guy a few years ago and apparently they had a falling out and he packed up all her shit that she had at his house and dumped it in the front of GBM's trailer in the trailer park where BM was living. BM of course couldn't be bothered to actually pick it all up, so when the garbage guys came 2 days later, they thought it was trash and put it all in the garbage truck. LMAO. She was pissed!!!!! but again, obviously the crap wasn't THAT important to her if she left it there for days.
Ugh, I'm sorry, OP. BioHo
Ugh, I'm sorry, OP. BioHo pulled this sort of caca with my DH. He came home one day to find she and her latest fuddy had removed light fixtures, door knobs, cabinet pulls, and faucets (and left the water running, which ruined the floor and caused a section of the basement ceiling to collapse). NOT that there was anything special about them, but because she's a freakin' CUNextTuesday. Unfortunately, she slit her own throat because that meant the house sold for less so the percentage SHE received was less. Which she was too stupid to realize until her lawyer explained WHY she was get $$ instead of $$$.
Apparently BM has put out a
Apparently BM has put out a plea for help (cleaning up her mess?) to her friends on Facebook this weekend--I will let you know how this "final push" works out.