I just want to let my husband know that I want him (and his kids a.k.a. BLABB'S) to respect me and my opinions.
A few weeks ago my SD wanted to borow some things from my son (she had show and tell about soccer which he plays).Normally when his kids has that in school my DH lookes for/makes up the whole lecture and they just have to read and learn it.His BD (and his ex/BM) started calling if he was finally done with her papers and when he can bring it to her.I told my DH that first of all: she's the one that has to do her schoolwork and not him, second: how dare she let him do all the work and expects him to bring it and the stuff she wants to borrow to her (we are no delivery service)third: why does he let his ex talk to him like that? I would never let my ex talk and demand something from me.
We have only one car...MINE !! I told him he is NOT using my car (spending my gas !!) to bring his BD her schoolstuff;she can come to our house and get it herself !!Her mom,grandma/pa,aunt(they all live together) all have a car.
He finally (reluctantly) told his BD that he can't bring her the stuff and she has to come get it herself (she kept calling about 20 times b/c supposedly no one at her house can use their car to bring her to our house)I told him my car is not moving an inch !! Those kids don't even respect me; I just don't like them !!(is that bad ??)
After about 30 min. she came to our house to get her schoolwork and the other things otherwise she'll get a bad grade so that made her come.I told my DH to tell het that she has to bring my son's thing back tomorrow after school.Of course that didn't happen.I asked my DH to call her about it and he had the nerve to say that he told her that he would pick up the stuff at their house himself.He's always making their lives so easy and comfortable !!! I told him: if you borrow a book from the library aren't you the one that has to bring it back too ? After a few days I asked him again and he told me that he has the stuff in his collegues car. I was furious ! he knew that I just wanted her to bring it back and still he went behind my back;he was supposedly going to check for some machineparts for his boss with the boss's car and took the opportunity to get the stuff at his kids house.
I've talked about his behaviour with DH so many times but he still does everything for them (his kids and ex; don't want to get the ex mad at him now otherwise she won't let him see his kids if she doesn't get it her way!) as soon as they snap their fingers.What's the best way to tell your husband you want a divorce? I don't see this marriage ever getting better;it's been going on like this for 9 years...I already gave up on the marriage.Now I just want out;live happily with my kids and not have to worry about Skids and BM's !!