BM picked up SS12 today. She was wearing a sweatshirt that said "wifey" on it, almost like she is trying to remind us all that she is married to GF. She was decent to DD2 and told us that DD is talking a lot more, which is true. After 5 years of promising, BM still isn't taking SS to Canada after a pick-up. We live an hour from the border. But she is driving an hour in the opposite direction of home to take SS to her old college stomping grounds... again for the millionth time. I am starting to think Canada won't happen like many other promised things in SS' life.

Overall, we had a nice visit with SS12. We had a few minor issues where BM and GF's home infiltrated ours. SS freaked out for 2 days over aspartame, protein grams, macros, etc. He was worried about the food we were giving him. I explained that last summer, he was freaked out about sugar and so this time, we bought zero sugar and now he won't eat/drink it because of artificial sweetners. We couldn't win. We always keep meals balanced with protein, carbs, fruits, and vegetables, with sweets in moderation so I don't know what his deal was. He worked out every single day, which was fine; it gave him something to do.

BM and GF called SS on Day 3 while we were driving. Once they realized he wasn't alone, they were careful in what they said and SS barely spoke in return. BM didn't really say much but GF asked tons of probing questions about his visit and us. GF then went on bragging about a recent work call and a gift she got a friend who is relocating. The gift said "Good luck finding friends as cool as us"... Ego much? The call lasted 7 minutes. 

SS has been wearing his smart tracking/cell watch all week. I know for a fact that BM texted him yesterday but can't tell if she or GF have communicated via the watch any of the other days. It was frustrating because BM texted DH yesterday to set up a call with SS for last night, despite the fact she was picking him up this morning. DH allowed the call because we can't say "No" per the CO. Right after the call was scheduled, BM started texting SS on his watch. What is the purpose of calling SS for a twice weekly chat if you are just going to text him anyway? It's also annoying because we don't have access to text SS on BM's time. All communication has to go through BM. They called SS last night for 20 minutes. As soon as SS had DH's phone, he ran and hid in his room with the door shut, so they could gossip and talk shit about us I'm sure. I couldn't make out any words, but I could tell it was a gossipy/negative tone of voice. 

I hate SS having the watch because 1) it tracks his location and 2) it allows him to text approved contacts (i.e. BM, GF, and friends). I know this is a part of this generation and taking it away will only alienate SS further. I just hate giving SS access to something that could allow BM to PAS in our home. I am dreading the watch and 6 phone calls when SS comes next visit. The phone calls and watch situation have caused big issues over the years with BM and GF interfering with our time by putting things into SS' head while he's here.

SS comes back in 8 days and will be here for 3 weeks. We are going on vacation to Florida for a week and a half. Hopefully, my fears won't come to fruition and we can have a nice visit next time. Last year's trip to Florida with SS was hell.