Some of you may recall, in December, BM emailed DH with test results indicating SS10 was "gifted". There was no actual message in the body of the email, just three images of a results report and a flyer about "giftedness." DH looked at the report. To be considered "gifted," SS had to score 128 or higher on this school administered test... he scored 132. SS10 was "gifted" by a whopping 4 points.

Our BM believes she is gifted herself. She maintained a 4.5 GPA in high school and claims to have an IQ of 160, same as Bill Gates. While she is academically very smart, which DH has attested to, she lacks in social skills and common sense. For the past 5 years, BM has made it her life's mission to get SS labeled as "gifted" because if he is not, it reflects poorly on BM since she holds academics and cognitive ability as the standard for success... typical narcissistic thinking. When SS was 6, BM had him tested for "giftedness;" SS did not qualify and was deemed average, which is when BM sought out the ADHD diagnosis that SS doesn't actually have. 

Today, BM sends DH another email. Again, no message in the body of the email, just an attachment with a letter from the school. Clearly, we didn't get the full story originally on this testing. We thought based on the original results BM sent, SS was labeled as "gifted" and that was that. Now we find out, there were two parts to this testing; the first was a standardized test that measured cognitive abilities. If passed (which SS did by 4 points), the school sent home a permission slip to obtain parental consent for further testing to measure creative abilities to determine if the child is actually gifted. If both the cognitive and creative areas were passed, then the child was labeled as "gifted." Well, the letter BM sent today indicated that SS did not pass the creative abilities test and is therefore not considered "gifted," but rather just "above average." DH and I have been saying this all along; SS is very smart and yes, sometimes above average, don't get me wrong, but he isn't special in his abilities. SS has told us himself that he still finds his grade level challenging at times. I'm sure BM is pissed about this. Makes me wonder if this test result has any connection to the whole toe walking issue and "sensory seeking behavior" related to SS' so-called ADHD that BM keeps emailing about since last time SS was denied a "gifted" label, BM had him diagnosed with ADHD.