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Bit off more than I can chew!?

ccdetroit's picture

:O So I have no bio kids,I am in a relationship with a divorce who has a son...This is all new to me,i found out he is in alot of financial ruin between his ex,his son and his family.Also he comes from a famil of a religion thats kinda cultish...his mom hates me(i hate her too) so that puts further strain.his ex is a manipulator and sociopath who leverage her son into a relationship and eventually marriage with him...it lasted a blink of an eye and she is till tooling him aalong via his son who is something of a manipulaor himself. My SO doesnt want kids right now and can be flakey seemingly because his religious family give him hell about me and so does his ex and son! Now i must mention that we did began dating DURING his Divorce but he had split physically from her 6monthstoo prior to us dating.Its hard because i have negative feelings towards his son..because early on, he would not bring him around me.I find out his ex is saying that the child cant handle being around anyone..blah blah blah and so he would spend his weekends away at a relatives with his son.I do however know for a fact he was not with her tho.but having his son arouund his like having her around because he makes comments to me,almost prrobinng me about my relationship with his dad even tho he is 12....

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purpledaisies's picture

Here's the thing if your so is not standing up for you now to his parents and to his ex and kid then it will be way worse and never get better.

Your so has not made it clear to his Mon that you 2 are a couple and will remain so she needs to be civil period. He also needs to tell his kid to be respectful and follow through with punishment if he is not. And he needs to tell ex that who he chooses to date is none if her business. If he hasn't or wont do that I'd be gone as he doesn't love me the way he should

Cocoa's picture

any ONE of those things is a relationship killer. that would be too much for me, but i'm old(er) and actually want to enjoy the remainder of my years as peacefully as possible. the step life has taken all my fight out of me. so i guess it boils down to how much fight you have in you and are you willing to give up possibly every dream/hope you've ever had just to be with this man?