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Submitted by Cerimac1973 on Mon, 09/20/2021 - 5:25pm

My boyfriend has 2 children. He has GPS. We have very little time alone. My 14 year old is amazing, well behaved and patient. His kids are loud. Rude. Inappropriate. Hyperactive and destructive. There is sarcasm and tantrums from his 9 year old and I'm sure his 4 year old is autistic. He has them enough. 5-6 nights a fortnight. Now he wants them more. I have ME and fibromyalgia. I can't cope with them taking over my house, leaving mess everywhere. Speaking to me like crap, causing arguments. I can't watch my own tv or cook food I want. They will only eat crap. His older daughter touches herself constantly and his younger daughters doing this too. She's obsessed with a teddy and ruined a holiday because she left it at home. His almost 5 year old has only just toilet trained. 
mid I get stressed I'm out of order. If I tell them off I'm too harsh. How is it that my children 28,25 and 14 are great, well adjusted and respectful. They eat like animals and have no boundaries unless they are superglued to the tv. His older daughter is sly and sadistic. She kicks their dog and has done to my pets too. When we're alone all my boyfriend dies is look forward to having them again and now wants them more. His ex doesn't work. I work full time even with my condition. 
Mia it time to walk away

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Submitted by SteppedOut on Mon, 09/20/2021 - 6:11pm

Yea....he's a crap parent and it isn't going to change.... leave him...if not for yourself, for your child. Yikes. Not ok for your child to be around all that crap. Remember, your number 1 job is to protect your child. No man is worth not properly caring for your own child. 

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Submitted by tog redux on Mon, 09/20/2021 - 6:56pm

What is GPS?
 

Anyway, I don't get these men who just decide they want more time with their kids, regardless of how their partner feels - and when they don't parent the dang kids anyway. Time to decide if you can put up with this long-term.

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Submitted by superlado on Mon, 09/20/2021 - 8:58pm

Like out in common areas in front of everyone ? The 14 year old it's normal but in privacy.  The younger ones not normal and this behavior points towards sexual abuse.  Get the hell outta there and ask your boyfriend what the hell he plans to do about the kids touching themselves. I'd be out tomorrow making a CPS call. 

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Submitted by SloaneMichael on Mon, 09/20/2021 - 10:35pm

Really. Truly. You will be so happy you did. 

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Submitted by Cerimac1973 on Tue, 09/21/2021 - 2:02am

I know enough is enough. It's been 3 years. Slowly he's wanting them more and me less. I always make the compromises. It's not fair on my daughter either. I do care for the kids. But here is an example of how far they push me. We went on holiday and all the 9 year old did was winge, he kept buying them crap. They kept loosing it. On my birthday night, his older daughter pulled a face when I said no to another crap toy. He got drunk. He agreed not to give in . She sulked and cried. I went toilet and when I got back she had a new teddy, 'she said , look what daddy got me. In your face kind of attitude. I went back to the caravan to calm down. Went to bed, he came in drunk , with kids. In my face, caused damage to the caravan and blamed me for leaving. Well I'm leaving now. There not my kids as he keeps telling me !!!