This morning, after a sleepless night spent chewing on things, SO and I do our morning wake up routine - coffee in bed. Munchkin has awoken after being dropped off, and walks by, sais good morning and comes in our bedroom and .... sees the looks on our faces. Stops and hesitates. SO decided to approach her using the direct route, with me there. He first asked her what happened last night with her mother. She sais "nothing", he asks her what she said to her mother, she sais "nothing".  Swears to it, very earnestly. Scrunches her face the way she does.

After a few different questions posed a few different ways, SO comes out with the sordid story of her mother texting me angrily last night - he wasnt specific, just very general. He shows her the *** few appropriate *** sections of texts which I had copied and sent to him, as a screen cap, before deleting her conversation. We ask her, gently and in a non-accusatory way, if she does in fact think that I am consistenly mean to her, or abusive. She denies saying anything of that nature, and I tell her I believe her because I trust in our relationship. Her response was "why would I lie?" Then she bursts into tears, and insists that I am ALWAYS REALLY NICE and GOOD to her all the time, it was just that one comment I texted acidentally.

She knows her mother is a sick, broken person who has a really bad temper and unleashes it in horrible ways. So basically this was a "cautionary tale" - be careful what I text! be careful what I say! Be careful what I do around Munchkin! SO also cautioned HER as in - "youve seen how your mother has treated me in the past, and all throughout the marriage and divorce, and thats why we arent together anymore. You just have to be careful what you say, because you KNOW how she is." 

We did not say anything about the Golden Uterus comment. I realize that texted comment was a huge mistake, of course, but it didnt seem appropriate to apoligize, or mention it. It might come up, but I wont push it. And I certainly wont blame her for going to her mother, it happened. She knows. Shes smart enough to realize that her mother will take something and blow it up. And attack. Shes seen it all her life. 

I told her "you know, typically I would say 'Im sorry you are going through this', but this time its all three of us going through this together." We hugged. 

SO also showed her my response, and I reiterated that I do really care about her and love her, and think her mother is lucky to have her. Thats what I wanted her to take from all that.

Things are really quiet, and she is drawing an original cartoon, and being very nice and polite. Im just being me, and contemplating life in this strange new atmosphere. Oh, and she decided on her own that she would like to stay here at home with horrible, abusive, mean CLove.