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Therapy Recommendations

CLove's picture

Submitted by CLove on Fri, 09/30/2022 - 10:22am

I know I have had many folks tell me this. I know I have said this many times. And many have shared experiences both positive and negative. I saw this and thought of, you, me and all the other steptalkers here:

https://www.wired.com/story/therapy-broken-mental-health-challenges/?utm...

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Submitted by CajunMom on Fri, 09/30/2022 - 1:28pm

There are bad therapists. There are also inadequate therapists, meaning they aren't qualified for specific areas, such as the toxic step world. And they can do serious damage to an individual.  This is why I always recommend people interview /  question a therapist before getting deep. Just because a counselor has a framed degree on the wall does not make him/her a good therapist. Do your due diligence when seeking a new counselor. 
 

Therapy has helped me immensely in my personal life and in my marriage. It's brought clarity on why I react the way I do, helping me fix my issues and react in better ways, taught me healthy boundaries and standing strong on self-care. Worth all the time and money. 

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Submitted by Rags on Fri, 09/30/2022 - 5:00pm

And... never forget the therapist works for you, as does your doctor, your lawyer, etc...

If they are not delivering to your expectations, fire them and find a better one.

I was fortunate to find a great therapist first as a marriage counselor during the death spiral of my first marriage, then as my personal therapist as I was recovering from that phase of my life.

Our first attorney during the SpermClan battle years we lived under the Custody/Visitation/Support order was ineffective. They were young, inexperienced, and less interested in our case outcome than in preserving  their local relationships in SpermLand. Not that they were a bad lawyer. They were focused on cooparation, relationships, and SpermClan feelings, our feelings, and minimizing conflict rather than results.  We spent the majority of the fees we paid her on her being my DW's emotional sounding board.

So, we found a shark who was solely focused on the results we engaged them to deliver.  Deliver they did.

Diablo

Never forget who works for who in these types of relationships.