If you have followed my blogs, you know that SD12 went back to live with BM after terrorizing our house and running away. She kept saying that DH was abusing her b/c we :gasp: made her go to school, do chores, and do her homework. BM told DH that SD12 was only failing because he didn't know how to handle her. Well the school called DH because they are unable to get in touch with BM and she listed him as an alternate contact on the school forms. They wanted to know why a parent hasn't come into the school to discuss SD12's attendance issues. She has been caught skipping school three times. Plus, she is on academic probation. She is failing every single class but Music. The school is threatening to call truancy on BM. DH explained the situation to them and gave them some alternate numbers for BM. The school told him that they had some concerns and might have to call CPS. He told them that BM has an open case with them and gave them the case worker's name and number.

We knew there were problems b/c DH is still friends with BM's BIL. He told DH that SD12 has been terrorizing BM's house and actually slapped BM across the face in front of him and his wife. Apparently, she is bullying the other kids. She refuses to go to school and if she doesn't get her way, she throws stuff and destroys BM's house (that sounds familiar).

This kid is heading in a bad direction and there seems to be no way to stop it. BM wants to sit on it and see if it gets better. DH thinks she needs to be put in a special program/school for troubled youth. He even offered to pay for it in full. The school would provide her with counseling as well as classes. BM says she will consider it. She told DH this is his fault b/c he abused her and "screwed her up". She also blames the school, saying that they are out to get her. The elementary school already called CPS on her this year for concerns with her younger 3 kids. You'd think she'd learn, but no.

I hope BM comes around and lets him get SD12 in a program that will get her some help. I'd like to see her be able to get past this and have productive relationships with BM, DH, and SD9. I just don't know if that will happen.