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Why is everything an argument?

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Submitted by confused_party_of_1 on Sat, 03/07/2015 - 1:21pm

Why is everything an argument with my 9yo SD? She has been diagnosed with ADD by two different professionals...she is loud, argumentative, disrespectful to authority, and extremely impulsive. Her BM won't put her on medication like the doctors recommended....and it looks like we are going to have to go to court over it.

Frustrating thing is...that until then, I am CONSTANTLY arguing with her. My SD always has to have the last word. I'm not sure if it's an impulse thing and tied to ADD... or if she is just being a brat?

Instead of engaging with her, I find myself just checking out of the situation and letting her just be a little Veruca Salt.

Whatever. Frustrating. :sick:

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Submitted by confused_party_of_1 on Sat, 03/07/2015 - 6:47pm

OMG...thank you! I feel secretly terrible that I would love to tell her to STFU...but I know I can't. It just seems so much easier though.

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Submitted by confused_party_of_1 on Sat, 03/07/2015 - 6:47pm

OMG...thank you! I feel secretly terrible that I would love to tell her to STFU...but I know I can't. It just seems so much easier though.

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Submitted by Red_panda7 on Sat, 03/07/2015 - 2:16pm

I remember being diagnosed with ADD some of it maybe that need to get the last word in some of it might be just flat defiance but it took a long time for me to recognize the difference between bad and appropriate behavior's but even when I went on medication it didn't completely solve my behavior issues and it takes sometimes a long time for them to even start helping but its true if you ignore it at least to some degree we learn that its not getting the reaction we want and will likely try to change tackticks

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Submitted by confused_party_of_1 on Sat, 03/07/2015 - 6:49pm

Your last statement has brought me so much comfort....I have felt alone for so long!! I am so grateful to have this forum to vent all the frustrations I have bottled up. It's nice to know that these feelings I have aren't abnormal.

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Submitted by BarkAtTheMoon on Sat, 03/07/2015 - 2:17pm

I have posted on here plenty of times about my SD19. Your SD9 sounds a lot like her. On more than one occasion, STers have said she sounds like she has BPD (borderline personality and ODD (oppositional defiant), and that the more ammo you give (by engaging with her), the more she'll shoot you down. Mine has disrespected me so much on occasion that she has called ME immature, blames all of her faults on everyone else and has to have the last word. It sure sounds like an annoying control issue at the very least. I wish I could spank a 19yo, but instead I'll just keep my distance from the bitch.

~ Moon

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Submitted by confused_party_of_1 on Sat, 03/07/2015 - 6:51pm

Wow...how do you do it? I think I need to go on medication just to keep myself in check.