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Crizzle's picture

do a song and dance. Have you ever seen "Singin In The Rain"? I want to do the whole Gene Kelly song and dance any time they leave. My mood just lifts and it's like "I'm siiiiiingin in the raaain, just siiiingin in the rain! What a glorious feeeeelin, I'm happy again!" If you haven't seen it, you should watch it and find that song. You'll know what I mean!

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JulieAnn66's picture

Amen to that! I know exactly what you mean and I thought I was the only one that felt that way.Are you talking about your kids or your spouse's kids?

Crizzle's picture

my spouse's kids. I hate being away from my own...lol.

"They say God doesn't give you more than you can handle. I just wish he didn't have so much confidence in me."

Snarky's picture

my sk's JUST left. And, as happy as I am when they are here, I am happy when they leave because I have my life back!!! WOOHOO!!!

Time is a great teacher, but unfortunately it kills all its pupils ... - Louis Hector Berlioz

doglover1's picture

one of the things I do is TURN THE DARN TV OFF!!!!!!!!!! The sound of silence is so wonderful! Or rather anything other than Hanna montana! Last nite skids left for nite and my sis in law comes over with her kid and he turns my tv on and I freaked!! Please Dear Lord Turn that thing OFF!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! NO MORE

Rags's picture

Though you can't get the movie anymore (the PC historical revisionists think it might offend someone, I can understand why by the way but it is just a kids cartoon movie), I loved Disney's Song of the South. Zippidy doo da, zippidy ay, my oh my what a wonderful day!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Only for us the celebration will be when SS no longer has to leave. Our home IS his home. That other place is just an unfortunate experience where he is exploited for 7wks a year to babysit three more examples of his SpermDad's inability to make a good decision and his GrandParents inability to put their foot up his SpermDad's ass.

When SS turns 18 (376 days) and we no longer have to fund half of the travel costs or take their phone calls (not that they give a crap enough to call often) it will be a great, great day. SS will not have to ever see them again and likely won't. Since his Mom and I will no longer be subsidizing travel costs and they don't have a pot to piss in or a window to throw it out of.

It will be awesome for my Son (SS) to not have to miss incredible Rags family events to spend much of his Summer, Winter and Spring Breaks babysitting his younger three out-of-wedlock half sibs (by two different mothers) and hearing his SpermGrandMa cackle and bitch her way through his visitations and hear his SpermGrandPa bitch about how much he dislikes my SS (SpermGrandPa hates by SS because of the CS he and SpermGrandMa pay for SpermDad). All while BioDad is off with the womb-of-the-month on his quest to impregnate every available Womb in the Pacific North West.

I am incredibly optimistic that the ever shortening list of character dampening crap he gets from his SpermClan will finally be on its way to the trash can on his 18th B-Day and that THEY can fade in to the background of his life as little more than an unpleasant chapter that he feels a little sad about upon occasion.

Get ready Son, your life is going to go from a bowl full of grapes that is half moldy to sunshine, wine and roses in 376 short days. I am so excited for you. For all of us. You and your Mom will finally be free of 18years worth of consequences that resulted from one brief period of unfortunate decisions. You can forget THEM and focus on being the best YOU that you can be without the SpermClan drama slowing you down.

376, 375, 374 ...............

Love you Kid! Mom and I are proud of you, of all of us.

Dad

Success is rarely final. Failure is rarely fatal. It is character, courage and consistency of effort that count. Vince Lombardi (with some minor Rags modifications) To each according to their performance, screw Karl Marx. (Rags)

Crizzle's picture

I may throw a party when my skids turn 18. They are so selfish and ungrateful and they lie so much. I did so much for them to make them feel at home here when they moved in with us. Their repetitive behavior has pushed me to disengage. I can't let them push me to such levels of disgust anymore and I have decided that they will not affect my happiness ever again.

"They say God doesn't give you more than you can handle. I just wish he didn't have so much confidence in me."

Sita Tara's picture

I'm FREE by the Who

BUT...

She doesn't go away anymore. BM took her for an hour and a half on Sunday while I was still out of town. That's been her only "overnight" (ha ha ha- what's THAT term mean) since...

Um....

At least 2 weeks ago?

And I'm not expecting any more for a while. She is just travel nursing now apparently. Working all over the country. I'd love to hire a PI to see if that's true. I wonder if we could get her for anything on lying about where she works what she does and when she says she "can't" take SD?

I'd love to just see her parental rights revoked. The courts are STUPID on this issue. I'm in a bad place this week though. Not just for me, but for friends I've written about before with the most psycho BM I've ever even heard of. I keep trying to get her to come here to vent, but I'm not sure with the drama on this site if she should right now.

Anyway.... sorry for the tangent. I'm posting about her a little later.

Shaman29's picture

I've had a bit of a reprieve, since we haven't seen step-demon since Father's Day Weekend. The little turd insisted on being here that weekend, then failed to acknowledge it with a card or a simple "Hey Dad, Happy Father's Day!"

I know I'm going to be happy to see the door close on her rude, lazy a$$ when she comes over. I'll dance a jig in my head only though. DH is having a rough enough time with what's happened as it is. No need to rub in my happiness of not having to put up with step-demon's BS and crappy attitude towards DH.

“Be like a duck. Calm on the surface, but always paddling like the dickens underneath.”
Michael Caine

StepMadre's picture

I second this! Biggrin

"A lot of people are afraid to tell the truth. That’s where toughness comes into play. Toughness isn’t being a bully, it’s having a backbone.” ~Robert Kiyosaki

Crizzle's picture

anytime they set foot out the door even if only for a couple of hours. They live with us and their BM isn't allowed anything more than supervised visits with them and she hasn't shown up for those since last October, so I cherish even ONE HOUR without them. I never get a break and I am soooo looking forward to school starting back up so I don't have to look at and hear them 24/7. Hubby works nights, so I am here with them EVERY day and EVERY night with the exception of the 4 or 5 hours DH is actually awake.

"They say God doesn't give you more than you can handle. I just wish he didn't have so much confidence in me."

2SteppinInCali's picture

the Skids leave. I feel so bad (guilty) about it because DH gets the blues. I feel free and I get my house back! My ears arent' ringing from "Dad", "I want...,", or the screen door opening and closing 1,000 times, "Can so and so come in?", "I'm hungry!," "I'm bored", "daddy", "2Steppin, can I ...?"!!!! It never ends! I often wonder if my Skids are extra needy and unable to occupy themselves or am I just being a biatch???? I am a teacher so I know what kids are capable of. I feel as though they are "working" their father and it drives me nuts. I don't mind having them when DH is not around, but when we are all here I get so irritated. Anyway, they live with us so anytime they go with BM or even when DH takes them on an outing, I am thrilled!! I am tryingnot to feel guilty about the pleasure I get from them being away for even an hour.

Crizzle's picture

I know what you mean. I feel the same way. Only I can't stand being around them even when he's not here. I think I hate it more because then they come to me for stuff and I am really just tired of dealing with them.

"They say God doesn't give you more than you can handle. I just wish he didn't have so much confidence in me."

Snarky's picture

and it's been two days since they left. Now, I love the SK's, but hearing constant yelling, and everything 2steppin said her SK's say gets to you after a while. When the SK's leave, the house is soooo quiet, messy, but quiet.(btw 2steppin, you aren't a beyotch at all for feeling this way)

These two kids are so starved for attention, they constantly hug on us or want to do activities with us. At first it's okay, I love their hugs, but after a while you have to wonder what kind of attention these kids are getting with their psycho BM.

Time is a great teacher, but unfortunately it kills all its pupils ... - Louis Hector Berlioz