Hello everyone....Its been a little bit so wanted to update everyone....

Lets see for new people....My DH and SD16 no longer live with me. DH and I are still together but not living together....

This is still the case with some small changes....DH stays over every Wed. by himself, SD16 stays at the grandmothers (where they both live) Fridays to Sundays they both sleep over leaving on sundays...

SD16 is driving alot more (had a car and was afraid to drive) she drives all over now. Goes out with friends, not all the time but at least 1 day during the weekend. Some weekends she even sleeps at friends which is great....Her and I had a heart to heart about a month ago and that seemed to go over very well...We talked, we laughed and yes we even cried...

My DH and I have come to the conclusion that until she is in college we will continue doing things just as we are. SD16 has told me she is now thinking about going away to college where before it was a NO WAY GOING AWAY!!!! Now she is at least thinking aboout it.

DH has become more of a parent since she has been going out more. Actually telling her instead of asking her. It has been nice. There is still a long road ahead of us and still issues to be resolved but overall things are alot better....

I do have to say getting 2 families together who are from totally 2 different backgrounds and brought up so different is the hardest thing i ever had to do. These baby steps drive me crazy and sometimes is very sad that we are together but yet need to live apart to make our family. We have been going to therapy and that has been helping alot also. I do have to say though there is less fighting, less tears, and less agravation since we have decided to do this. DH was not happy when I asked them to leave but knows now this was for the best if our relationship was going to work...I finally see the light at the end of this horrible tunel!!!