Isn't it great to be counting down the days. Youngest skid graduates in June. One more month of CS and we are done. Feels so good,I just want to sing and shout "Hallelujah!"
Pray tell, WHAT EXACTLY DOES IT FEEL LIKE?!?! I can only imagine....
Some of us want to know what this feels like and what we have to look forward to...for now, it is only a dream.
How long have you waited for this moment? Has your BM been using the skid(s) like paychecks and will this be a HUGE loss of income for her - as would be for OUR BM??
Yes, Milomom our CS was the only income for BM & her husband for 6 years. At one point her 20 year old unemployed stepson moved in so DH was supporting 3 adults in that household. 2 years ago CS was cut due to SD#1 graduating. BM got a job but not in her field since she didn't work for 15 years and didn't keep up her certifications. She just got a second job knowing that CS ends next month. Her husband hasn't worked in years.
Last week SD#1 is crying the blues about how hard it will be for BM when CS ends. That BM and her hubby have no health insurance, no retirement and are about to get their utilities cut off. Why was she telling us this? DH has poured money into that household for almost 20 years. BM took vacations, bought all the latest electronics, and got a new car every 3 years instead of planning for the future. Well,SURPRISE, the future is here!!!
Ahhh yes, Still Have Hope! I am living vicariously through you right now. Our situations are eerily similar with our PATHETIC loser BM's who fail to have ANY FINANCIAL PLAN WHATSOEVER for their entire lives.
I can TOTALLY see my life mirroring yours in a few more years. How FSD16.5 will be "crying BM's blues" to us in the near future about how she has nothing (hell, she can't even KEEP a man, nevermind get remarried - she just hopes that her body/sex will keep them around, but that only lasts for SOOO long....but I digress) and how hard BM's life is once the massive CS$$ Gravy Train ends.
My response? EXACTLY what YOU are thinking! Why would we CARE about BM's financial condition once the skids are grown? REALLY?? My FDH has poured a TON of money into BM's life since the day she MET him and USED HIM ever since then (she already had an out-of-wedlock kid from another man from when she was 16 YEARS OLD that she literally EXPECTED my FDH to raise and support). BM has NEVER financially supported herself at any point in her ENTIRE LIFE! NEVER ONCE worked a full-time job, ever - even to this day, as a "single mother" whose kids are practically GROWN (Fskids are FSD16.5 & FSS13.5) and is easily able to work a full-time job while they're in school!!! So after 7 years that BM has legally been apart from my FDH, DH has been POURING MONEY into her life (she got a VERY NICE MONETARY SETTLEMENT FROM THEIR DIVORCE, PLUS BRAND NEW CAR, RETIREMENT $$$, MASSIVE MONTHLY CS$$ yet only having her kids 50% of the time, etc...), yet BM amazingly is financially able to buy ALL THE LATEST ELECTRONICS/GADGETS, always has had the newest computers, iPads, iPhones, a color Nook (reader, like a Kindle), etc.... It never ends with these BM's - the "entitlement".
Sorry that BM's FAILURE TO PLAN will be her demise...not my FDH finally being able to be FREE FROM ANY LEGAL OBLIGATION to her ($$$) for the REST OF OUR LIVES!!! Like you said, the CS$$ Money Train ending is NO SURPRISE AT ALL - these BM's have YEARS TO PLAN for this "future" event - it's not this unpredictable emergency situation that cannot be anticipated.
Sigh...these BM's ALWAYS playing the "victim"/"martyr" in front of their kids - that Poor Mommy will have no money if Daddy doesn't "help her support them". VOMIT!!! :sick: :sick: :sick:
Funny, too, how our BM wonders why I have absolutely NO RESPECT FOR HER WHATSOEVER (I've never come out and TOLD her that, but I imagine she feels threatened by me being a successful, professional woman with an advanced education and my own business - so she probably ASSUMES I don't respect her - rightfully so!!).
Get off your asses, BM's and EARN SOME MONEY, EARN SOME RESPECT - even for your damn self!!!! You reap what you sew.
Please promise us, Still Have Hope, that you'll keep us updated on how everything goes once the CS$$ ends!! Whoo hoo!!! Soooo happy for you! You finally get to live a "normal" life! Without the court-ordered, automatic financial DRAIN that is called "child support"!! Now DH gets to provide for/help his kids the way he sees FIT to do with HIS money, not just have to send an automatic check to financially support BM because the court ORDERS him too! SUCH A HUGE DIFFERENCE!!!!
I'm SOOOO excited for the both of you! (I'll admit, I'm a bit jealous/envious as well ). I can't even imagine how I'll feel when my FDH will be on his LAST MONTH of CS - what will we do with an extra $1,500/month?!?!?
I wish you both all the best - take 1 month of what WOULD'VE been your CS payment to BM and enjoy it YOURSELVES!!! Go on vacation, buy something you've ALWAYS wanted, but couldn't afford to buy previously.
Also, do you ever wonder what BM's reaction will be once the Gravy Train reaches its final destination?? I'll admit, I wish I were a fly on the wall when THAT happens. I'm absolutely sure that the "BM crazy-meter" will reach an all-time record high level right before the end of CS. I can guarantee it.
YES!!!!!! i can't wait for her "allowance" to end and we finally get to live comfortably!!! no more "do we have any money left" conversations a few days before payday.
i just put in my 2 week notice at work and will be moving to a new job that came with a raise and very nice vacation plan so between skid support going down and new job - I'M SUPER EXCITED !!!!
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Only 15 more years left for
Only 15 more years left for us
That will be such a glorious day.
Isn't it great to be counting
Isn't it great to be counting down the days. Youngest skid graduates in June. One more month of CS and we are done. Feels so good,I just want to sing and shout "Hallelujah!"
AHHH Still Have Hope!! Pray
AHHH Still Have Hope!!
Pray tell, WHAT EXACTLY DOES IT FEEL LIKE?!?! I can only imagine....
Some of us want to know what this feels like and what we have to look forward to...for now, it is only a dream.
How long have you waited for this moment? Has your BM been using the skid(s) like paychecks and will this be a HUGE loss of income for her - as would be for OUR BM??
Yes, Milomom our CS was the
Yes, Milomom our CS was the only income for BM & her husband for 6 years. At one point her 20 year old unemployed stepson moved in so DH was supporting 3 adults in that household. 2 years ago CS was cut due to SD#1 graduating. BM got a job but not in her field since she didn't work for 15 years and didn't keep up her certifications. She just got a second job knowing that CS ends next month. Her husband hasn't worked in years.
Last week SD#1 is crying the blues about how hard it will be for BM when CS ends. That BM and her hubby have no health insurance, no retirement and are about to get their utilities cut off. Why was she telling us this? DH has poured money into that household for almost 20 years. BM took vacations, bought all the latest electronics, and got a new car every 3 years instead of planning for the future. Well,SURPRISE, the future is here!!!
Ahhh yes, Still Have Hope! I
Ahhh yes, Still Have Hope! I am living vicariously through you right now. Our situations are eerily similar with our PATHETIC loser BM's who fail to have ANY FINANCIAL PLAN WHATSOEVER for their entire lives.
I can TOTALLY see my life mirroring yours in a few more years. How FSD16.5 will be "crying BM's blues" to us in the near future about how she has nothing (hell, she can't even KEEP a man, nevermind get remarried - she just hopes that her body/sex will keep them around, but that only lasts for SOOO long....but I digress) and how hard BM's life is once the massive CS$$ Gravy Train ends.
My response? EXACTLY what YOU are thinking! Why would we CARE about BM's financial condition once the skids are grown? REALLY?? My FDH has poured a TON of money into BM's life since the day she MET him and USED HIM ever since then (she already had an out-of-wedlock kid from another man from when she was 16 YEARS OLD that she literally EXPECTED my FDH to raise and support). BM has NEVER financially supported herself at any point in her ENTIRE LIFE! NEVER ONCE worked a full-time job, ever - even to this day, as a "single mother" whose kids are practically GROWN (Fskids are FSD16.5 & FSS13.5) and is easily able to work a full-time job while they're in school!!! So after 7 years that BM has legally been apart from my FDH, DH has been POURING MONEY into her life (she got a VERY NICE MONETARY SETTLEMENT FROM THEIR DIVORCE, PLUS BRAND NEW CAR, RETIREMENT $$$, MASSIVE MONTHLY CS$$ yet only having her kids 50% of the time, etc...), yet BM amazingly is financially able to buy ALL THE LATEST ELECTRONICS/GADGETS, always has had the newest computers, iPads, iPhones, a color Nook (reader, like a Kindle), etc.... It never ends with these BM's - the "entitlement".
Sorry that BM's FAILURE TO PLAN will be her demise...not my FDH finally being able to be FREE FROM ANY LEGAL OBLIGATION to her ($$$) for the REST OF OUR LIVES!!! Like you said, the CS$$ Money Train ending is NO SURPRISE AT ALL - these BM's have YEARS TO PLAN for this "future" event - it's not this unpredictable emergency situation that cannot be anticipated.
Sigh...these BM's ALWAYS playing the "victim"/"martyr" in front of their kids - that Poor Mommy will have no money if Daddy doesn't "help her support them". VOMIT!!! :sick: :sick: :sick:
Funny, too, how our BM wonders why I have absolutely NO RESPECT FOR HER WHATSOEVER (I've never come out and TOLD her that, but I imagine she feels threatened by me being a successful, professional woman with an advanced education and my own business - so she probably ASSUMES I don't respect her - rightfully so!!).
Get off your asses, BM's and EARN SOME MONEY, EARN SOME RESPECT - even for your damn self!!!! You reap what you sew.
Please promise us, Still Have Hope, that you'll keep us updated on how everything goes once the CS$$ ends!! Whoo hoo!!! Soooo happy for you! You finally get to live a "normal" life! Without the court-ordered, automatic financial DRAIN that is called "child support"!! Now DH gets to provide for/help his kids the way he sees FIT to do with HIS money, not just have to send an automatic check to financially support BM because the court ORDERS him too! SUCH A HUGE DIFFERENCE!!!!
Dakotamom and Still Have
Dakotamom and Still Have Hope, CONGRATULATIONS!!!
I'm SOOOO excited for the both of you! (I'll admit, I'm a bit jealous/envious as well
). I can't even imagine how I'll feel when my FDH will be on his LAST MONTH of CS - what will we do with an extra $1,500/month?!?!?
I wish you both all the best - take 1 month of what WOULD'VE been your CS payment to BM and enjoy it YOURSELVES!!! Go on vacation, buy something you've ALWAYS wanted, but couldn't afford to buy previously.
Also, do you ever wonder what BM's reaction will be once the Gravy Train reaches its final destination?? I'll admit, I wish I were a fly on the wall when THAT happens. I'm absolutely sure that the "BM crazy-meter" will reach an all-time record high level right before the end of CS. I can guarantee it.
YES!!!!!! i can't wait for
YES!!!!!! i can't wait for her "allowance" to end and we finally get to live comfortably!!! no more "do we have any money left" conversations a few days before payday.
i just put in my 2 week notice at work and will be moving to a new job that came with a raise and very nice vacation plan so between skid support going down and new job - I'M SUPER EXCITED !!!!
i agree - the money spent
i agree - the money spent will be AN OPTION not a court order!!!!
YAYAYAY
YAYAYAY