weekend
Is it wrong that the weekend is coming up and I'm not excited because I know SS15 will be there yet again with nothing but stories about how step dad on other side is a dork? How do I politely get SS15 to stop talking about the other side? He's always talking about his mom and step dad and the things they do - good and bad. I hate listening about the other side and it irritates me to hear how they need this and that and BM won't buy them because she doesn't have any $$. EXCUSE ME - we pay you good child support money - where the hell does that go?!?!
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My SD14 used to do it all the
My SD14 used to do it all the time. I had to tell her to stop cause DH and I really do not want to know what goes on in their lives! She's doing much better now....but once in awhile she squeezes info to me...not sure if she wants to get to me or just excited to share it with me.
We USED to have this
We USED to have this problem.
The kids would come over and freely talk about "the other house." All. The. Time. Drove DH and I CRAZY.
But that was OUR fault, because we didn't tell them not to, so they didn't know any better. After all, they felt completely comfortable in our home, so why not talk freely?
So we institued a simple policy: "What happens at BMs house, stays at BMs house!" It's not that we didn't care about them, it's just that we didn't care about "that house" and all the drama, and all the nonsense.
They got it. And it stopped.
Question: I have two SKIDS
Question: I have two SKIDS one 5 and one 3. The 3 year old talks about mommy ALL THE TIME! We eat steak its mommy makes this at her house. We watch a movie my mommy has this its non stop. Do you think 3 is to young to tell her to stop talking about her mother? How do I say it to her. Let me just point out that since I am going to be asking her NOT to do something she WILL cry about it.
My SS does the same thing.
My SS does the same thing. But he is always talking about something! Did I mention that he is ALWAYS talking about something!
Up until SS came to live with us, I normally saw him a few minutes every month or so for the last 8-9 years. When he moved in here about 6 months ago, he has not left ONE freaking time to stay the weekend with BM.
He has some type of camp next month and I am counting down the days for him to be gone for a whole week.
i know EXACTLY what you mean
i know EXACTLY what you mean about talking ALL THE TIME!!!! His voice just irritates the hell out of me because it is like the energizer bunny. SS15 will update us on baseball, football, soccer, nascar anything that he can to bring up something. I dread the day I finally snap. If I gave a shit about something I'd probably be watching it or i'd ask the score, but I don't so shut up!!!! I'm glad SS15 is only there on the weekend, but those are my precious days of no work and a full day to enjoy my husband and there he is....talking and following...I keep telling myself 3 more years and he won't be at my house every weekend, i hope.
I think if he wants to talk
I think if he wants to talk about his mother and step father just humor it. Im sure he knows its annoying you thats probably why he does it. I dont think its crazy that you are not looking forward to the weekend because he is coming over it happens to be a lot. Does your husband pay child support? If so SS14 is old enough to know that so next time he says mom wont by me this or that because she has no money you should let him know that his dads sends her x amount of money every month so that he can be provided for.
we do remind both Skids that
we do remind both Skids that we pay her good money and they should be provided for. We can't help what she does with it. It's even gone to the point of DH telling the kids to move in with us - Please no!!!! But at least then we wouldn't be paying her money for who knows what....We could use the money back, but I'm afraid that having them there full time they would eat more than what we spend for the weekends. Talking to DH and what he spends on his kids is pointless because nothing is too good for his boys. I'm tired of them always being spoiled because he doesn't know how to connect with them in any other way then buying their love.
We are going to a sporting event this weekend and SS15 is bringing his gf - fine, maybe it will encourage him to pick up the pace with his nonexistant hygene issues. Hates to shower, I've never replaced a toothbrush for him - doesn't even have toothpaste stuck to the bottom. Grosses me out. Anyway - so SS15 asked DH if his girlfriend could spend the night with us after the event. The event is in town - she could go home. DH asked what BM said - of course she wouldn't allow it in her home so DH said SS15 gf could spend the nite with us. I heavily objected but it didn't matter. "he can't do what he wants at THE OTHER HOUSE so why not let him have a little freedom...... sorry but I know what I was doing at 15 and DH knows what he was doing at 15, but he says by letting SS15 bring a girl into our house it might show we trust him and nothing will happen. the disney land dad crap has gone on long enough. I"m not cleaning, i'm not washing bedding before hand. DH and SS15 want this additional person in the house - they can prepare for her. I"m tired of putting all my energy into making meals and cleaning laundry with no thank yous - i know there won't be any gratitude shown for allowing gf to spend night so why waste my time????