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Children are why we can't have nice things.

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Submitted by daysleeper on Sat, 12/31/2011 - 9:45am

This is a quick rant, because I'm on my phone and I'm PISSED. Not only am I stuck babysitting my skid. Alone. On New YEAR'S Eve while SO "works" a karaoke show, but I woke up this mor ing to discover that the little shit had broken one of my antique bowls that had been put away. And what does SO say? "It got broken." "How did it get broken?" "SD was making breakfast, and it broke." That is the most passive language I have ever heard. Fine. SD broke my bowl. SD is a kid. Shit happens. But how dare SO use such passive language and try to protect ickle SD? My God, does he think that I'm some sort of monster who would strangle his child if not manipulated by controlling language into behaving? So now, I have a broken bowl, I'm set to be alone on NYE, watching this brat, and SO can't even grow a pair long enough to make her have accountability to herself or to me! And then he apologized on her behalf, and I said, "It wasn't your fault, you're not the one who broke it." and he said, "It's called parents taking responsibility for their children." Uh, sorry, dude, but apologizing FOR your child is the exact OPPOSITE of that. Try again.

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beyond pissed-off's picture

Submitted by beyond pissed-off on Sat, 12/31/2011 - 9:56am

My question is how she had it in the first place if it had been put away. Sorry about your bowl. I love antiques too and really despise it when people don't take care of things that belong to other people!

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Submitted by daysleeper on Sat, 12/31/2011 - 10:09am

Apparently, SO is teaching/encouraging her to make her own breakfast, and she had to move that one from its spot decorating the part of the table that it was decorating. To clarify, "put away" doesn't mean wrapped up and stored... sorry for the confusion! I just meant that it wasn't accessible to her for her use in her cereal-making endeavors.

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Submitted by planningMyEscape on Sat, 12/31/2011 - 10:35am

Same thing happens at my house. Skids have broken several things of mine (including a chair because they would not stop wrestling on it). And SO has actually taken the blame HIMSELF-saying he broke the things, because GOD FORBID skids take responsibility for ANYTHING. Awful.

I am sorry your bowl got broken. And that your NYE is going to suck. I think you should tell SO to find a babysitter for his kid, and go out by yourself or w/friends!!!

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Submitted by TinyDancer on Sat, 12/31/2011 - 11:00am

sorry about your bowl... that does suck.

that said, you need to put the blame where it belongs. on SO.
not the kid. kid is just doing kid things. SO however, well, that language isn't allowed on open forums.

Just curious, does your SO have full custody? Parents? Someone else who is responsible for HIS child? Keep in mind how your starting the new year... by setting precedence in allowing him to do what he wants at your expense. What would happen to kid if you weren't available to babysit?

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Submitted by daysleeper on Sat, 12/31/2011 - 7:18pm

TinyDancer, I ended up asking him this! And I definitely placed the blame on him. That's why he eventually got BM to watch SD.

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Submitted by daysleeper on Sat, 12/31/2011 - 7:23pm

Also, to answer, we don't have custody. We only have her eow, but we have her an extended period for holidays.

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Submitted by jojo68 on Sat, 12/31/2011 - 11:19am

I so get this post....OMG because of SD11...I can't have anything out that is nice...can't decorate because it is moved around or broken...walls and doors are written on and broken...dishes are everywhere all the time. Not to mention my bathroom being completely trashed and my make-up being gotten into and ruined (wouldn't bother me for her to use my things and put them back) but she ruins my things, breaks them, or destroys them. She has been brought up to think it is ok to treat everything in life as if it were disposible...forgot to mention the untrained animals that are allowed to come into the house or the dog with a skin disorder...better call Better Homes and Gardens about my home...lol...wait maybe it might be more suitable to call National Hog Farmer and it might get a feature in the pigpens and styes section! LOL how I wish this wasn't true.

Having a nice clean orderly home is so important to me...I know that kids are a little messy...I totally give them a break about having a messy room that is within reason but SD is allowed to completely control the whole house (she rarely inhabits her own room) so she treats the whole house as a play house without having any consequence to not respecting her own home. It makes me so sad...I cry about it sometimes, our home could be so cute but it isn't at all. It smells, is only clean immediately after cleaning (which has to be done twice daily to really keep up)and there are broken doors and walls that have been written ALL over.

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Submitted by daysleeper on Sat, 12/31/2011 - 7:22pm

Jojo, I am so sorry to read this. Sad I laid into SO about disciplining his kid and letting her know that it isn't okay to break things. It's an accident, sure, but not something that's shrugged off without even an apology.

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Submitted by Vichychoisse on Sat, 12/31/2011 - 2:16pm

Things of mine that have been broken/trashed/damaged by skids since I moved in with SO less than 2 years ago (I'm a bit of a collector):

- countless plates, bowls, glasses, cups
- ceramic dish I made for SO
- sofabed (slats broken)
- dresser (drawer front broken)
- Wii controllers and guitar
- a Netbook (STEPPED on and screen crushed)
- 1970s vintage swivel chairs (BOTH of the matching set! one broken off the swivel and one filthified by dirty socks and hands)
- 1950s vintage boomerang coffee table (leg broken)
- 1980s leather loveseat (all supports broken, leather worn away and torn, had to throw it away completely)
- large outdoor carpet (stained with paint)

I might rather live with the Tasmanian devil.

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Submitted by beyond pissed-off on Sat, 12/31/2011 - 4:25pm

I have some really beautiful things that I inherited from my first husband when he died. No way in hell am I putting them out! They could easily be broken - either accidentally or on purpose - by the skids and then there would be absolute hell to pay. I will have to wait until either they move out - or I do!

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Submitted by beyond pissed-off on Sat, 12/31/2011 - 4:26pm

I have some really beautiful things that I inherited from my first husband when he died. No way in hell am I putting them out! They could easily be broken - either accidentally or on purpose - by the skids and then there would be absolute hell to pay. I will have to wait until either they move out - or I do!