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SO not listening to my advice and potentially making a giant mistake - time for disengagement mantra.

daysleeper's picture

Submitted by daysleeper on Wed, 12/04/2013 - 1:35pm

DS is not my child.
I am not responsible for overcoming her previous "raising."
I am not responsible for what kind of person she is.
I am not responsible for what kind of person she becomes.
I am not obligated to become an abused member of the household just because I got together with her dad.
I am not responsible for raising SD.
All the responsibility belongs to SO.
SO is not a mother.
SO is not going to raise SD the way I want him to. (THIS IS THE BIGGEST ONE RIGHT NOW.)
SD is not going to turn out the way she would if SO supported me.

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3familiesIn1's picture

Submitted by 3familiesIn1 on Wed, 12/04/2013 - 1:46pm

THIS is where I am:

SS\SD is not going to turn out the way she would if SO supported me.

I stick on that one because DH makes references to how he says I have to much to offer and praises my bios and how they are turning out. But all the times I tried to engage DH did the opposite of support me. So I am stuck on that one.

So well put.