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Submitted by Dc3sc2 on Fri, 02/05/2021 - 7:27pm

This week I bought sd9 now sd10 a new bed and a shelving unit. I put it all together and changed her bedroom furniture round so it looks better. I also bought sd12 a shelving unit and changed her bedroom furniture round. You would think at the least I would get a thank you?? Nope definitely did not. 
It was sd10s birthday on Wednesday so today as a favour to my dh (who did say thank you) I got her a cake, card and gift. I also put up balloons and banners etc for her birthday celebration here. Did I get a thank you? Nope again I definitely did not. 
My mum bought her a gift did she get a thank you no she did not. Again I do want to point out my dh did thank me and my mum for these things and has been appreciative. 
For dinner i got a take away as a treat. 
Ds8 "can I have pizza please mummy?" 
Dd10 "please can me and sd12 share a curry?"

sd10 "I want pizza" 

No thank you for that either.

I did it for my partner not for those entitled brats but still really gets on my nerves to not even thank someone for a gift. 

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ndc's picture

Submitted by ndc on Fri, 02/05/2021 - 8:39pm

Does your DH notice this and correct his kids?  If manners aren't taught and enforced, kids aren't going to use them.  Obviously you've done a good job with your kids.  Has DH done the same?

BTW, if my mother gives a gift to my skids, I don't count on DH to enforce manners; I tell them right away to write a thank you note and I make sure it gets done.  I know a lot of people on here don't worry about the behavior of the skids because they're a reflection on their parents, not on their stepparents.  But when my family is involved, I feel like the skids reflect on me, and they're going to be well mannered.  Luckily they are.  

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Submitted by Cover1W on Fri, 02/05/2021 - 11:53pm

This is why I stopped doing what you are doing. Your DH needs to plan, purchase and deliver on birthdays, esp. with ungrateful kids. Do not ever mention or help again.

My SDs stopped receiving gifts from my family, due to ungrateful attitude. Not my problem. 

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Submitted by tog redux on Sat, 02/06/2021 - 9:08am

I wouldn't do anything more for them, personally.  New rule - if you ask if they want something and you don't get a please and thank you, they don't get the thing they asked for. 

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Submitted by missgingersnap2021 on Sat, 02/06/2021 - 11:06am

I only do things for SD to make DH happy. And he is always very appreciative of the things I do for her or with her in mind.

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Submitted by Survivingstephell on Sat, 02/06/2021 - 11:56am

You keep doing and they will never experience you NOT doing.  SDs might not get it but DH might.  Reward  good behaviors.  Looks like you won't be that busy with it. 

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Submitted by Survivingstephell on Sat, 02/06/2021 - 11:56am

You keep doing and they will never experience you NOT doing.  SDs might not get it but DH might.  Reward  good behaviors.  Looks like you won't be that busy with it. 

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Submitted by CLove on Sun, 02/07/2021 - 10:38am

Ive always pretty much gotten those. But never anything like a card or a gift for my birthday or Christmas.

Ungrateful bratolas. No thank you.