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DevilElf's picture

I can't say "I told you so" at home so I'm going to say it here.

Last summer SO and Princess hammered out a deal where he'd have the whole summer in exchange for her getting what she wanted. I told him then that we'd never have his girls all summer. In January when she said we'd only get 4 weeks, I didn't say "I told you so" - I said "You're not going to get that. When she gets done you'll be lucky to have three weeks."

Here we are. Week 4. The girls went home to BM's for the weekend and haven't come back yet. They're not coming tonight either. As a matter of fact, I'm not sure when or if they will be coming this week. But I'm not going to say "I told you so."

The thing that really steams me is that they wanted to go to one of the camps that my kids go to. It's a nice camp but $$$ so my kids get to go on alternate summers. SO signed up both of his girls for this camp - a 2 week block - to the tune of $500/each and now half of that is going to waste. That's $500 down the drain just when the A/C in the house died and we have to scare up $6k. We could have used this cash but that doesn't matter to Princess.

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Jsmom's picture

If we paid for the camp, I would force the issue and go get them. That is just throwing away money. Force it. These kids do not control our lives.

Sia's picture

Isn't funny how many DH/SO/BF's would be so much better off if they only listened to 1/2 of what we would say? I can always predict BM's moves, right down to this last incident, myself, so I know how you feel!

DevilElf's picture

The last time he tried to "force" the issue and go get the girls on his time against BM's wishes it ended badly. I believe the exact quote was "You'll see your children when I tell you that you can see them!" with two kids in tears. He decided that night that he was done fighting with her. I disagree with his approach but am trying to take the "Not my kid, not my problem" approach. He pays for their camps out of his money, not joint funds so while it can chap my butt I'm not going to say anything about it. (But I'm not cutting him slack on the budget either!)

And Stepx2, that's a good idea but this camp runs three sessions over the summer and this is the third one so there's nothing left this year. Last year they were enrolled in a different camp and when summer visitation got cut short we could still get a full refund for the part they hadn't attended. They raved all last week about how much better they liked this place but it has a no refund policy so I'll be pretty damn vocal about them not ever getting enrolled there again. Heck, they're 11 and 14 now. I'm thinking next year they can stay home alone and play xbox all day - I'm sick of putting money down on camps only for them to not come back to finish.

Pantera's picture

Could you imagine what would happen if you threw away $500???!!! Thats what irks the hell out of me. DH needs to make them go to camp.