WOW, can you believe this?!?!

This may be a little long, but worth it...
So just a little update first since I haven't been on.. SS last game, I got there and didn't even look at bm, didn't say one word. The skids were all over me as I knew they would be... Hadn't seen their mom in a few days, and still wanted to sit with me the entire game.. At one point sd4 was on my lap and said "when do I go to my moms?" I said in 2 days.. (Bm is about 6 ft away staring at us lol) sd4 replies "I don't wanna go to my mamas, I wanna stay with you". (It was hard not to laugh)
So then near the end of the game I was talking to BFs mother, and bm walks up to try and talk.. I didn't even look at her, she asked about skids, and I answered.. That's about it.. So now fast forward to yesterdays game... Here it is:
BF and I get to the game with skids, and bm isn't even there yet. Sd4 had been coughing a lot n wasn't feelin so hot.. We r sittin on a hill by the field n I kept tellin BF that sd was gonna puke if she kept coughing like that..she did lol.. So BF tried to call bm 4 times and sent a text, bm didn't answer.. About a half hour later she calls, then starts shit on the phone..ugh whatever. Thru-put the game I again, didn't look at or talk to bm.. I was sittin with BFs parents, and his brother.. And sd6 was with me... Well at the end of the game skids were supposed to go home with bm.. They did NOT want to go.. Sd's both started balling their eyes out and clinging to me! Saying "I wanna go home with daddy n DG" repeatedly! They didn't want anything to do with bm! Well ss askes his grandparents if he can go to their house for the night! Bm was like " wow my kids don't even wanna see me" n kinda laughed... Well it continued for like 10 mins!! The kids didn't wanna go! So finally bm (in front of them all) screams "why don't u just pack up your bags and move in with them!!!" Oh shit!!! I couldn't believe it!! The look on the skids faces!! Seriously?! How immature n thoughtless, as if the kids understand the situation! I immeditaly got down on a knee with sd's n said "mommy misses u and u kind of hurt her feelings cuz ur not excited to go with her" and what not... So bm is off crying and pissed of with her arms crossed..oh my god.. Well finally we leave and BF says, "she shoulda used that moment for some self reflection"
Sorry this was soooo long

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cool . Hope the girls

cool . Hope the girls weren't too upset the rest of the night. (but good for you!)

Great of you to be the better

Great of you to be the better person when addressing the kids! Im sure it was hard not to say, "If I were them I wouldnt want to go with you either!" Good for you!

Thanks ladies... I told BF

Thanks ladies... I told BF I'm just gonna keep doing what I am and being good to the kids... They see me for the person I am, and I hope it will always be that way..
As BF said, she should do some self reflecting! And sry I was out for a few days, we were busy with the kids!

This is a cool story but let

This is a cool story but let me tell you something quickly that really altered my perception of what people are capable of being:

My Mom cheated on my Dad with my little brother's best friend when she was 42 and the kid was 17. Horrible story. Bought him shit with Dad's money, including a car, blah, blah, blah. Anyway it comes out and Mom and Dad get divorced. Of course not until Dad took her back and took some of the blame for being inattentive and yadda yadda, and she did it again, same guy.

So flash forward. I don't speak to my Mother for TWO YEARS. I mean AT ALL. I was 22 at the time.

One day my Dad calls out of the blue and after a little BS he says "how's your mother?" I say "well Dad I don't know, because I haven't talked to her."

He says "I know. Your brother told me. How long has it been?"

"Two years."

He then says "son, your mother made mistakes. We've all made mistakes. She's still your mother. What happened between me and your mother has nothing to do with you and your mother. I need you to do me a favor and call your mother today."

I did.

The whole situation made me realize what a hell of a human being my Dad really is.

I tell you this to tell you that if you encourage your skids to see BMom when it's BMom's turn, and you do your best to help them maintain a healthy relationship with BM, it will pay off for everyone in spades, and it will be something that the skids won't forget when they grow older.

I feel good for you that the skids accept you THAT strongly. We should all be so lucky

Situations like this are what

Situations like this are what make being the bigger person worthwhile....kudos to you, DG; your skids are lucky to have you in their lives!

Thanks everyone I feel the

Thanks everyone I feel the same way! No matter what crazy thing bm may do to me and my BF or how poorly she acts towards her children at times, I still always make sure to talk highly of her to them!

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