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Why do I have to be involved?!? Let me disengage!!!!

DisengagedWolf's picture

Submitted by DisengagedWolf on Fri, 06/05/2015 - 3:49pm

Why is it that when DH has SD16 I have to be involved or he gets mad? Because of all the drama and his lack of parenting I don't want to be around SD16 unless I absolutely have to. My DDs usually have thing to do over the weekend so DH gets mad and tells me I am having them make plans.... Really DH? I make their friends do things over the weekend to purposely keep my DDs busy? Really? No. That's called normal. My oldest is 18, my youngest is 12. They have friends. That's what that looks like. As for me? I take his weekends with SD and make plans of my own or take the time to myself. I enjoy it. Today I am planning on a solo run, Long shower and movie in bed. He and SD can do whatever they want. But when he asks me if I want to do dinner and I say no have fun. He gets mad. When he wants me to watch a movie with them and I say no I am watching one of my own, he gets mad. Why do they need me? SD is here to see Him right? Not me. Anyone else have a DH forcing family time on them?

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WTF...REALLY's picture

Submitted by WTF...REALLY on Fri, 06/05/2015 - 4:00pm

Sounds like he just dose not want to parent on his own. And no, you do not have to parent with him if you don't want to.

Mary Il's picture

Submitted by Mary Il on Fri, 06/05/2015 - 9:22pm

My husband would act the same, I see his point of view that in a marriage you do it together as one unity.
If i want to do my own thing while the kids are staying he used guilt trip me with saying that Im segregating myself from the family unit. If it wasn't FORCED the idiots would get a much better response.

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Submitted by EvilAngel on Sat, 06/06/2015 - 9:28am

I live with my SD16 and my husband expects me to want to hang out with her. I can't STAND her and she's weird too. I don't have anything in common with her but since she is here all the time, I can't avoid her 100% but I do the very best that I can.

Let him get mad! That's his time with her. Like you said, she came to see him, not you.

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Submitted by Newstep on Sat, 06/06/2015 - 10:09am

SO expects me to happy I get to breathe the same air as SD16. Nope I don't think so. In the beginning I tried really hard and she shit all over that So now she gets to deal with the consequence. I plan all activities for when she is at her BM's for SO and I so when she is home I gomout and do my own thing. Works great and she gets dear ol daaaaddddyyyyyy all to herself lol. But now that he's not kissing her ass 24/7 she doesn't like it so much }:)