I got an email from my husband's ex. She now wants us to consider her having the boys 50-50. She hopes we come to an agreement before the end of the year so she won't have to take us to court. Was that a threat? Ok first of all she was the one who gave them up to us. I recall her one time at their basketball game saying to me(we had only met 1-2 times before this) you all take them after the game, I can't deal with them anymore. I mean I'm sure some of us have thought of that before, but I surely wouldn't act on it. All kids get on our nerves here and there. Their kids. The problem was that she had no backbone, never disciplined them and lost control and the respect of them. The oldest wanted to come live with us months and months before she gave them up. It will be 2 years this October of them living with us in a stable, consistant & secure environment. They have adjusted well to their schools,new friends & blended family. Lets just say they have come a long way since we got them. And now bc she feels she can handle them now she wants them more. I just think thats bullshit. We feel they will just regress and put more change back into thier lives? Don't think thats a good idea. We have a wonderful relationship with my ex, bc we can all agree what's in the best interest of our daughter. Her on the other hand, never compromises with us. She wants to be thier best friend and the good guy all the time. I'm not too worried about it if she wants to take us to court bc first my husband isnt worried about and secondly, she has no leg to stand on. I'm just irritated. She always wants drama in her life so here we go again. Hopefully she will realize that its best for the boys to have no more change in their lives. Thanks!