Yes, but she is stupid!
I swear dh will find any opportunity to tout how wonderful his dd is. She is 14 and in 9th grade and came home with no SHOES on Monday. She "forgot" to put them back on after an after school activity. Dh picked her up and she was soaked (they played after activity) so she didn't have them on. It is no surprise that someone found her expensive shoes and kept them. Dh is going on and on about how she is facing up to her responsibility, unlike my dd, and doing chores to earn the money to replace her shoes. He is telling everyone how proud he is of her asking to replace her shoes by earning money. We fought when he told dd she could learn a thing or two from sd. I just want to say, yeah but she is so stupid she forgot her shoes AT SCHOOL! How does one forget their shoes AT school?
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So was there ever any cost to
So was there ever any cost to you guys for DD's mishap with the band cart? I can't imagine that the school's insurance wouldn't have paid for damages.. so why is your DH still being an assface about it??
I talked to the band teacher
I talked to the band teacher and the lady decided it wasn't worth the effort of getting fixed. He said the school reached out to her and offered to file a claim but she told him not to worry about it. Dh is the only one dragging on about this. Anything that has to do with responsibility he makes sure he rubs dds face into this. I'm so mad I could spit nails right now.
Why do you two stay together?
Why do you two stay together? Why do you each force your children to
live with this foolishness?
Most of the time our
Most of the time our relationship is good. Most of the time. I tell myself every relationship has problems and I know he truly feels dd is in the wrong. He wants the best for her even though he is wrong about this. I guess he thinks beating a dead horse is the only way to go.
So... the only time he's been
So... the only time he's been poopie to your DD is this ONE time???
If you two are staying together, you should separate finances and parenting. He cannot parent your DD (and leave her alone about that damn cart) and you cannot parent SD. If there are charges from the cart issue, YOU pay for them as it is YOUR child. SD's shoes? Your DH can pay her money for chores and/or buy SD new shoes.
Yes, every relationship has
Yes, every relationship has its problems. Sometimes they are small and insignificant, others are large and painful.
The thing is we can't always see the magnitude of the problem from inside the relationship.
When a bunch of strangers on the internet tell you that what you've described is a large and painful problem, not some small aside, please try to step back and see the problem from a different vantage point.
Both of you are harming your children, you are pitting them against each other as well as each of you disliking the others child.
Do you really think SD anDD aren't affected when he says my daughter is more responsible and you reply with well she's stupid.
Even if neither child ever hears that conversation your home is saturated with it. You know it is! Don't tell me you didn't know when your parents were fighting, or that there wasn't a favorite in your house. Not a word needs to be spoken for kids to know how parents feel about each kid.
You both need some counceling and now.
THIS!!!
THIS!!!
You and your DH seem intent
You and your DH seem intent on hating each other's children. This is no way to raise kids.
I agree.
I agree.
I might be wrong but I think
I might be wrong but I think the DD is also her DH's daughter.
If that's the case, that
If that's the case, that makes what he's doing to her even worse.
Nope - two different SDs. OP
Nope - two different SDs. OP as her own daughter and her DH has his. No blood relation between the girls in question.
Why do you keep letting your
Why do you keep letting your DH abuse your DD? She is going to have terrible issues when she is older since you let this go on so long.
OP hasn't exactly given warm
OP hasn't exactly given warm fuzzies to her SD. Quite frankly, OP and her DH had doing an injustice to their respective children.
Yes, it's blatantly obvious.
Yes, it's blatantly obvious. Sad for the children.
Yeah, it’s annoying, but I
Yeah, it’s annoying, but I think you should let this go. The sun obviously rises and sets with her while he thinks your daughter is a joke.
But based on your blogs you are both doing the same thing here. Playing the “my daughter is better than your daughter” game. Have you thought about disengaging and just focusing on doing a good job raising your daughter? It might help if you let him do the same. You two obviously can’t work this out.
Are there any other relatives
Are there any other relatives on both sides of the family that can take both girls? Your hatred for each other children is appalling. Its a bad place for both children.