Most people would probably call that mixed. I don't think she should have to "be" one or the other. There isn't a "mixed" box on forms to check? There should be.

good grieve... SD is human, skin color does not define who you are, if she says she's black so be it, if you think she's white so be it,
really not something to debate about and to wonder about.

I would say she is a black kid who can pass for white.

I would have her read some literature on passing. Cullen, Nella Larsen, Hughes, Hurston's Color Struck....

I wonder what color she will be when it's time to apply for college scholarships. }:)

You SD is black. Independent of how she looks she is firmly black, although she can pass of white. Her father might want to acknowledge this because it will change her viewpoints on certain matters as she gets older.

We've been through this with DS and skids.

DS's father was only 1/4 Mexican. DS is only 1/8. BD's skin was white. You couldn't tell he was even mixed. The only thing Mexican about him was his last name (Which was actually Spanish, as in Spain). He would get really offended if anyone referred to him as a white person. He clung to that little 25% with everything he had and would say and do things to try to make people believe he was Mexican. The only actual Mexican people within 100 miles he was related to were his Grandfather (full) and mother. The whole rest of the family is white as can be and blonde headed. Lol

DS identifies as white. Other than his name, you'd never think anything of the sort.

Skids mother is 1/2 Mexican. SS is 1/4 Mexican and SD is 1/2 Mexican. They both look Mexican and identify as such. They took on a lot of the physical traits associated with Mexicans. You'd never think SS had a white dad.

Different nationalities/races live differently when it comes to traditions and such. That's why DS's BD wanted to identify as Mexican so much. He wanted that culture, but it wasn't there in his family. Skids were raised around a traditional Spanish speaking great-grandparents house.

You never know how someone will react when you mention something like that. DS has a friend that is black. He was playing with DS one day and came crying to me (6-7 years old then) because a kid called him black. I was speechless. I didn't know that to do. Turned out his mother thought being called black was racist and had raised him to identify as African American.

And then there is Rachel Dolezel. Quite interesting.
I think your daughter will be whatever she identifies most closely with. Hopefully one day she will embrace her entire background. I don't even see this as an issue. Surprising though that school forms are so literally black and white, especially in todays age.

I live in a melting pot of cultures and absolutely love it. One thing I like about the melting pot, people identify themselves as mixed nationalities by stating the origin of the country they’re from. So someone might be Chinese, Portuguese, Irish, Japanese and Hawaiian.

I personally have never understood the black race in the white race thing. Everybody comes from somewhere. If you’re black you could come from different countries in Africa or you could be coming from Jamaica and on and on. If your white, you could be coming from Sweden or Ireland and on and on and on. I don’t think there such a thing as black-and-white. I believe their origins from your ancestors that came from countries.

And where I live, the feeling is the more mixed you are the better. Some of the most gorgeous people in the world come from mixed heritages.

I have 2 adopted sisters who are black. They live with my SM and dad in a rural farm town that is majority white. Someone at school asked one of my sisters "What is it like to be black?" She responded: "I don't know... I'm raised by old white people." LOL Interesting perspective on that.

DH is white. His 5 1/2 siblings are all mixed. Always assumed that they were white/black. One of his sisters recently did one of those DNA testings and found out she doesn't have ANY African American in her. It's been hard for her because she has always identified as black.